The Queen of My Self

The Queen of My Self

The Best-Kept Secret: Women Love Power Part 1

I’ve got to tell you, I absolutely love this continuing theme of women’s relationship to power. This is a subject very close to my heart and something that we women need to examine closely and concentrate on if we are to rise to the full potential of our Self-sovereignty.

I am receiving so many fantastic letters and articles from sister Queens who are actually quite comfortable in their power and are not too shy to admit it! Could anything be more inspiring?

Here is another wonderful, thoughtful and wise piece. Enjoy!

The Best-Kept Secret: Women Love Power Part 1
By Dr. Marcia Reynolds, AZ
I’d like to banish the widely held myth that women are uncomfortable with power, that we aren’t in touch with our power or don’t like wielding our power. These statements are not true, and they damage the credibility of women.


I do believe it’s true that women give away their power. But first women have to have power in order to give it away.

I also believe it’s true that women don’t like to publicly acknowledge their power. They don’t tell other people that they enjoy having power, and they brush off compliments about the power they demonstrate. It’s likely that they do this because they still face criticism in social and business situations if they admit to enjoying the feeling of power. It is still not safe for women to see their power as a gift.

Yet it is not possible to feel uncomfortable expressing something you don’t have. So women have to have power in order to feel uncomfortable talking about it.

The truth is, when it comes to feeling powerful, women are not only comfortable with it, they like it. We like feeling in control and don’t like it when others try to take that control away. We like being listened to and accept compliments about our wit, if not our intelligence. We like doing important work and feeling that our work is significant.


And contrary to the endless articles that claim that women are responsible for the lack of leadership positions they hold because they don’t raise their hands, look who raises their hands in school. Girls are taught early on to raise their hands. Then as adults, many volunteer for tough assignments and leadership roles.

Yes, women prefer to be asked to step into leadership positions, but unless the woman is a full-fledged introvert, she will take on more responsibilities than she can handle and only turn down leadership positions when she just doesn’t have a drop of energy left to spare.

Tomorrow: The Best-Kept Secret: Women Love Power Part  2

* Please send me your thoughts about power. Also stories of your own empowerment. When shared, these ideas and examples are extremely inspiring to others. Thanks.


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