Want to have a little fun with your friends? Ask married couples to respond to the following question: “What is the most essential component of a happy healthy marriage?” Chances are, at least 75% will respond by saying something like, “Marriage will only work if you have good communication”. It seems that everyone is convinced that communication is the foundation of a good relationships, but few actually know how to communicate in an effective manner. My time in the clinical office working with couples has confirmed that a person’s ability to communicate well is rooted in their ability to truly listen to their partner. The less a couple listens to each other, the less connected they are. The more a couple listens to each other, the more emotionally intimate they become. Check out this TED talk video in which Julian Treasure gives very practical advice on how you can develop better listening skills.
Don't Cry Over Spilt Milk My son spilled a whole glass of milk on the couch this morning. Again. This is maybe the second or third time that he has made the same mistake, and I have to admit, I was upset. O.K., I was more than upset, I was mad. So, I went to him and asked him calmly and respectfully to clean up his m
Give Thanks - Stress Less
Tomorrow is the BIG day. We will all sit around a table with people that we care about and “celebrate Thanksgiving”…whatever that means to you! But it is important to recognize
The Family That Eats Together...
Growing up in my Italian household meant that many family times were centered around one thing: FOOD. As a teenager I remember sitting down to a home cooked meal with my mom, dad and sister every night. And there was on
The State of Your Union
So, do you know what makes up a good marriage? Do you have one?
Can you spot trouble instantly in someone else’s marriage? How about your own?
Research shows that the way you recount your early years of being together, both positive and negative, is about 90 percent accurate in
Friendship: The Key to a Less-Stressed Marriage
Research shows that one of the most important features of successful relationships is the depth of your friendship. In fact, I find that I can often make a quick (and accurate) assessment about the state of a marriage by taki