The Celebrity Therapist

The Celebrity Therapist

Acceptance and Compassion: Cornerstones to Working Through Life Transitions

posted by sherrygaba
 Periods of change and transition can be stressful for most people. But for those grappling with an addiction, how you deal with change takes on even greater importance, since your addiction typically functions as your (maladaptive) coping mechanism in times of stress.

Applying acceptance and compassion can help you begin to shift negative responses to change. Pema Chodron, the American Buddhist nun and author, writes about both in her book, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times:

“Compassionate action is a practice, one of the most advanced. There’s nothing more advanced than relating with others… To relate with others compassionately is a challenge. Really communicating to the heart and being there for someone else…means not shutting down on that person, which means, first of all, not shutting down on ourselves. This means allowing ourselves to feel what we feel and not pushing it away. It means accepting every aspect of ourselves, even the parts we don’t like. To do this requires openness, which in Buddhism is sometimes called emptiness — not fixating or holding on to anything. Only in an open, nonjudgmental space can we acknowledge what we are feeling. Only in an open space where we’re not all caught up in our own version of reality can we see and hear and feel who others really are, which allows us to be with them and communicate with them properly.”

As Chodron stated, compassion is a practice. So is acceptance. This means they are not second-nature, so be patient with yourself in this process and, in time, it will get easier. These tools, once instilled, will continue to see you through each life transition you encounter with less distress and more grace according to Meredith Watkins, Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Editor of RecoveryView.com.

Sherry Gaba, LCSW, is a Psychotherapist and Life Coach in Agoura Hills, CA.  She is the author of “The Law of Sobriety: Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery” and Life Coach/Pychotherapist on Celebrity Rehab on VH1.

A Case of Missing Identity

posted by sherrygaba

A few decades ago, scads of people searched in earnest to “find themselves”. The general public dismissed this as a lot of hippy hooey. How does it happen that “you” have wandered away such that travelling to relocate yourself is necessary? How do you recognize yourself when you get there? Will you be holding a sign with your name on it, like an airport driver?

 

These kinds of misinterpretations greeted the seekers and pushed them into the “we’re-not-sure-what-to-do-with-you” category, where at least they would all be together, less likely to stir up mischief among the “civilized” world.

 

But perhaps this movement was actually tapping into something truly integral to the human experience. The very thing Socrates described when he stated, “The unexamined life is not worth living.”

 

It seems there are a lot of unexamined lives stumbling around these days, bumping into each other, and feeling very isolated from all the other stumbling bumpers. Many of these “lost” souls have turned to various addictions–drugs, alcohol, eating disorders–to avoid confirming their worst fear: “Deep down, I really am a terrible person, devoid of worth, not deserving of love.”

 

Meredith Watkins, Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Editor of RecoveryView.com states, “In my work with people suffering from addictions, what strikes me most is this lack of self-awareness and fear that their true identity is inherently flawed, beyond repair. Overcoming this belief and replacing it with a more accurate, positive and healthy one is sometimes the greatest challenge in our work–and the most important.”

 

Start to ask questions, such as “What things are really important to me and why?” What do I want? How would my life look if I believed differently? What you believe informs what you do. And your actions all have natural reactions or consequences that make up your experience of life. Isn’t that worth a closer look?

 

 

Sherry Gaba, LCSW, is a Psychotherapist and Life Coach and author of “The Law of Sobriety: Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery” and Life Coach on Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew on VH1.

Celebrity Addiction Radio Interview on 2 Moms and a Mic

posted by sherrygaba

2 Moms and a Mic

2 Moms and a Mic ?2 Moms and a Mic

Get Ready as I join 2 MOMS AND A MIC August 4, 2010 tune in 1400 KKZZ.com .

Compulsive Shopping: The Closeted Addiction

posted by sherrygaba

You’ve heard the term before. “Shopaholic.”&nbsp; The reference is usually to someone always on the hunt for a new item, a bargain, or the quest to have the latest and the best.&nbsp; But <em>oniomania</em>–the clinical term for this behavior–is no joke.&nbsp; One in 12 people in the United States struggle with this disorder.&nbsp; Of those affected, 80-90 percent are women.
Read some of my thoughts on the subject:
http://www.mgyerman.com/2010/08/01/compulsive-shopping-%E2%80%93-the-closeted-addiction/

Previous Posts

Signs Of Danger: When Love Turns To Addiction
Love addiction can be equated to the need to be in a relationship regardless of how potentially damaging, abusive or even potentially self-destructive it may be. Often, when people are in a relationship, maintaining the relationship becomes all important, even if the other person no longer wishes to

posted 2:55:49pm Jun. 04, 2014 | read full post »

Celebrities And Adderall Abuse
There are a range of different reasons and different prescription medications that are abused or used off-label by average people as well as those with celebrity status. One of these medications is Adderall, a drug commonly prescribed for children and adults with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactive

posted 8:45:19am Apr. 03, 2014 | read full post »

The 5 Most Surprising Celebrity News Stories Of 2013
Sometimes when you hear a celebrity’s name in the news you just know what is going to follow. You may also have been one of the millions that knew of the addiction or hidden secret of the celebrity that suddenly the star feels necessary to reveal. However, despite the rather open nature of celebri

posted 2:58:25pm Jan. 06, 2014 | read full post »

Is Celebrity Behavior Above The Law?
It is no surprise that celebrity behaviors, even those that are illegal, often fly well below the radar until there is a huge public issue that simply cannot be ignored. These types of incidents, often aptly described as train wrecks, typically come to define that individual. For recent examples thi

posted 10:14:31am Dec. 27, 2013 | read full post »

Creativity And Mental Health: What Is The Connection?
Have you ever stopped to consider the number of celebrities, stars, entertainers, artists and writers that have reported mental health issues? And, in thinking on the topic, have you ever stopped to consider how this trend seems to be anything but modern? Looking back on history it seems obvious

posted 2:16:20pm Nov. 27, 2013 | read full post »


Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.