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The Celebrity Therapist

I am learning many lessons as I go through the process of promoting my book.  One of the biggest lessons has been “humility.”  This quote from the book “The Kabbalah of Envy” is a great definition of what humility means to me.

“Many people believe that humility is the opposite of pride, when in fact it is a point of equilibrium.  The opposite of pride is actually lack of self-esteem.  A humbler person is totally different from a person who cannot recognize and appreciate himself as part of this world’s marvels.  His attitude is thus different from someone full of pride, totally centered on himself.

I have had three book signings since my book came out.  One was extremely successful and the other two, not so much.  I have had to take a look at what success really means.  At first, a successful book signing clearly meant having a big turn our and selling lots of books, which was my first experience at my book signing.  The second book signing was in another city where no one knows me and the turnout was small.  I felt sadden not by the fact that it was small, but I noticed many people walking by my area and they looked as if they wanted to sit down, but were too embarrassed.  At the moment it hit me.  People are still embarrassed to admit they have an addiction.  This was in Las Vegas, Sin City, and it was clear to me that even in 2010 people won’t admit to having a problem.  They still see their addictions as a moral issue rather than a disease.  Of course, having a small turnout was a humbling experience and I learned to define success in whole new way.  I would have felt more “successful” if I could have at least gotten my message out, but unfortunately, Las Vegas was not ready to hear it.  I do hope, however, that someone will one day stroll over to the addiction section of that bookstore and get the help they need so that in some small tiny way I have made a difference.

Then I had another book signing over the weekend.  Again, not as big a turn out as I expected.  Was I disappointed?  Yes.  Did my pride take over for a few moments?  Absolutely.  Luckily, it didn’t last long and I just was happy I showed up and suited up, as we say.  I carried the message to some people and even got to practice my speaking skills.  It turned out, although I didn’t realize it at the time, it was a “successful” evening, and it had nothing to do with selling books.  It was all about doing what I say I am going to do and believing in what I do; and if even not one person showed up, I did.  That is humility, don’t you think?  Please let me know your thoughts so we can start a dialogue about the meaning of humility to you.

http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/5797400/the_law_of_sobriety_an_interview_with.html?cat=70

Check out my interview today at 3 pm PT on CNN Prime News as I discuss Lindsay Lohan’s court case.

http://www.cnn.com/CNN/Programs/prime.news/

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Lindsay Lohan will be back in court Friday for testing positive for cocaine and could face 30 days in jail.

This is just after being released from a UCLA drug treatment center where the doctors determined she was not a chronic substance abuser.  Are you kidding?  How did they come to that conclusion?  I don’t get it.  I have worked in this field for numerous years and every indication points to Lindsay being an addict. 

Lindsay has failed multiple drug tests, spent 13 days behind bars and was released early due to overcrowded jails.   If these aren’t bottoms, then what is?

Lindsay has hit her bottom numerous times and is still using which means obviously whatever treatment she has been receiving is not working and/or clearly she does not want to get clean and sober.  Ironic that in the same week Paris Hilton, another young celebrity, gets busted for cocaine. 

My mother made the most interesting comment to me the other day.  She asked, “Why aren’t these woman doing something in their lives that is meaningful?”  “Why aren’t they doing charity work?”  “Why aren’t they spending their time being useful instead of partying all hours of the night and flaunting their line of handbags?” 

This is just outrageous and the arrogance of these women permeates Hollywood’s slew of young and entitled celebrities.  It is another example of most likely friends and possibly her family enabling this type of behavior by their denial and their inability to say “no.”  On the other hand, she is a 24 year old woman, who is deeply in her disease.  She is most definitely an addict and she needs one year of treatment.  She needs to immerse herself in recovery and change everything and everyone in her life if she expects to turn her life around. 

Although I try not to promote my book, this is exactly what Lindsay needs.  She needs to find her purpose, her calling and figure out what it is that gives her life meaning other than drugs and alcohol. We all have a reason to be on this planet.  We all have gifts to impart to the universe.  Lindsay has a calling but she has yet to find it because she has been too busy living in chaos and dysfunction for too many years.  I wish for her to find what it is that fulfills her and brings passion to her life, otherwise I am afraid she is going to keep doing the same thing over and over again.  Yes, she needs recovery, but she also needs a reason for being here. Otherwise, she unfortunately may not ever have that chance to be the woman she is meant to be.   She, like so many other young adults, are never able to access their purpose because they are too busy numbing their feelings.   Only that tiny voice of wisdom can be heard from their higher power, Buddha, God, Jesus, Allah, or higher self when they remove all the destructive behavior their lives encompass.   Only when they embody their true and enlightened nature, will they find the peace and serenity they so desire.