The headlines and millions of households deal with “hard addictions” on a daily basis. We talk about illegal drugs, prescription drug abuse, designer drugs and alcohol. Hard addictions can include sex, gambling and food. What about those habits that aren’t considered “hard-core addictions”? These bad habits can have a negative impact on your life. While the consequences may not seem as severe, they do impact ones every day life. What do these bad habits look like?
There is an ever-growing list of bad habits that are viewed as “soft”. The key factor is that these habits, while harmful, do not usually result with the extremely harsh consequences of typical “hard addictions”. The follow are a few examples of activities or substances that can harm your day-to-day quality of life.
- Talking On The Phone Excessively
- Texting/ IM’ing
- Daydreaming Rather Than Accomplishing Your Tasks
- Complaining Consistently
- Gossiping With Friends Or Co-Workers
- Acting Negative During A Large Portion Of Your Day
- Belittling Loved Ones Or Co-Workers
- Caffeine In Any Form
All of these activities can appear harmless, if they are done in small doses. When we overindulge, we run the risk of having a bad habit turn into a dangerous addiction. When we use any of these activities to overcome your emotional feeling, or to make you feel full, complete, whole or satisfied, there may be underlying issues. The underlying issue of fear is similar to those that experience “hard” addictions.
Regardless if your habit appears “soft” or it is an addiction, it can be equally devastating to the person displaying the behavior. All negative activities steal your time and energy. You find yourself devoting more time to things that are not benefiting your life. The benefit of having a bad habit, over having a hard addiction is that bad habits are usually easier to break. This does not negate from the desire to continue your negative habit, it will take vigilance, mindfulness and time.
If you have taken a moment to reflect on your day-to-day activities, and find that you have negative habits that are taking away from your quality of life, it is time to take action. Being aware of your bad habit is the first step. Once you are aware of the bad habit, think about the reason you have the habit. Are you truly engaging with your negative habit because you have become comfortable and complacent?
If your negative habit is not serving you, think of ways to replace your negative habit with a positive one. You can also ask those surrounding you, that you trust, to hold you accountable. If you set a goal of cutting caffeine out of your daily routine, let others know so they can hold you accountable when you walk towards the coffee pot. If you feel the urge to spread the latest gossip, take a second to think. Is the news that you just “have to share” going to benefit anyone, or are you simply spreading news that could potentially hurt someone? As you become more aware of your bad habits, it will take some work on your part to break them.
We all have habits, good and bad. It is important to conduct a self-check on a regular basis to determine if your habits are hurting you or helping you. By being mindful, aware and pro-active, you will find your old bad habits replaced by healthy positive habits. These healthy habits will improve your emotional, spiritual, physical and mental well being. You will be pleasantly surprised by the results.
Sherry Gaba, LCSW, is a Life and Recovery Coach on Celebrity Rehab on VH1 and author of “The Law of Sobriety” which uses the law of attraction to recovery from any addictions. Sherry can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org for coaching packages, therapy, teleseminars, workshops, or speaking engagements. www.thelawofsobriety.com www.sgabatherapy.com.