I’m worried about Jeremy London. In the group sessions and
the one-on-one meetings he’s had with Dr. Drew so far on Celebrity Rehab, he
seems to be totally focused on his ex wife: “She drove me to drugs, she ruined
my career, she ruined my life, she put our child at risk.” In the one-on-one
sessions I’ve had with him (which you can see here: http://www.vh1.com/video/misc/610692/jeremy-london-one-on-one-part-1.jhtml#id=1655336), he’s expressed the same ideas.
He is not taking responsibility for his addiction, or for any of the problems
in his life.
This worries me because he can’t go
forward in his recovery until he sees his own part in the progression of his
disease. Right now, he sees himself as a victim. The victim blames others for all his problems, rather
than looking inside himself and taking responsibility for his behavior. Victims get things done to them;
their circumstances are out of their control.
When you are a victim, you can avoid taking
responsibility for changing your life. It allows you to not move forward, not
align with your values, not follow your passions, not even discover what those
passions are. It allows you to stay in your disease and not even take the first
baby steps toward finding your purpose.
When you take responsibility for
what has happened to you, you are no longer a victim, you are a participant in
your own life–including your own problems. But that also means you can
participate in your own solutions; you can make them happen. Better
outcomes–and a better life–are within your control.
The Law of Sobriety says that
negative thinking can only bring more negative thinking. View yourself as a
perpetual victim and you will be one. Take responsibility for your life and
believe you can change the outcomes, and you will be able to.
My work with Jeremy is only the beginning, next he must come to terms with his part and through working the 12 steps and The Law of Sobriety, recovery from being a victim and his disease is possible.
Sherry Gaba, LCSW, is a Licensed Psychotherapist and Life Coach on Celebrity Rehab and in private practice. Contact Sherry at firstname.lastname@example.org to learn more about her recovery and life coaching packages, psychotherapy, workshops, speaking engagements, and her upcoming teleseminar. Sherry is also the author of “The Law of Sobriety: Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery” and a seven lesson audio down load on how to eliminate all addictions from your life.