As I go back and forth from the set of Celebrity Rehab, seeing clients, spending time with family and friends, and making time for me, I remember some advise a Life Design Life Coach, Leslie Gail, best selling author of Life Simplified: A weekly Guide to Creating a Life you Love, gave me a while back. She reminded me “you simply can’t be everything to everyone and do everything for everyone, something has to give and it isn’t time. She had me look at questions such as “Do you feel there is enough time in the day?”, “Do you feel as if there are enough hours to get everything done?” These were great questions to reflect upon.
One of the lessons I learned was to try to simplify my life and reprioritize. For example, I just won’t be able to get to my emails as often during this busy time or spend as much time on my Facebook and Twitter. I have learned to take the “should be doing this” out of my vocabularly and I have learned to do what I truly want to do. I also have learned to delegate delegate delegate. I have hired a virtual assistant to help me with computer issues which has been vital for the building of my business. I hired someone to help clean my house every two weeks, which is a God send. I have had to let go of being all things to all people. I just put one foot in front of the other as the 12 step program has taught me.
Here are some suggestions regarding time management:
1. Log a week
Before you can find time when there isn’t any, you need to take a look at where you are currently spending your time. Take a typical week and journal how much time you are devoting to each activity. For ex. work, commute, childcare, exercise
2. What do you value
Next make a list of everything you value in your life from the most to the least. Do your weekly tasks parallel what you value the most or things of little value to you? Begin creating a life that resembles what your top priorities are.
3. 3 Questions
Instead of focusing on all the minute tasks you feel you need to accomplish every day, refocus your time. Ask yourself these three questions every night: 1. What is important about tomorrow 2. What must get done tomorrow 3. What is coming up in the future that I can begin preparing for.
Sherry Gaba, LCSW, is a Psychotherapist specializing in addictions. Sherry is the Psychotherapist on Celebrity Rehab on VH1 and author of “The Law of Sobriety: Attracting Positive Energy for a Powerful Recovery.”