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Most Christian colleges require students to attend chapel
services. Chapel is not an option, it’s part of the curriculum. If you don’t
fulfill your chapel quota, you don’t graduate.
Though Christianity purports to operate under the auspices
of grace and generally claims that church attendance isn’t something God grades you on, Christian
culture doesn’t see it that way. All that Christ-given freedom could get out of
hand. That there freedom needs some good old-fashioned, Torah-caliber parameters.
They can’t just let those students roam around free, pointing their bodies
wherever it seems like a good idea. Leave
it to religious institutions to take something wildly esoteric and beautiful (such
as as the gathering of believers in worship) and then find a way to monitor people’s
performance and grade them on it. Christian colleges know they can’t actually
make you worship, but they can make you appear to worship, and that’s good
enough for them.
So how exactly do you appear to worship? You just have to
get your arse into chapel. If they could read your mind or inventory your heart
they would, but they must settle for counting your presence in the chapel. In spite of all this chapel enthusiasm, you don’t have to attend every day. Some schools require 3 chapel attendances a week, some say seventeen per semester, etc. This of course engenders criminal mischief as students seek to evade chapel attendance. At schools where video imaging is used, seniors pay the freshmen to go to
chapel in their stead (a camera in the ceiling records who is sitting in which
assigned seat, so as long as a body is in your spot you are absolved) or if they have a card system they do
the Slide ‘n Glide, where you scan your student ID at the chapel entrance and
The chapel services themselves start with some introductory praise
‘n worship with three-chord songs which are led by one of the three hottest
guys on campus and his pained expressions. He likes to look up at the vaulted ceiling
and intermittently close his eyes while singing, and every straight girl in the
building prays again to be the future Mrs. Sexy Guitarist as a way to sublimate her lust.
Chapel is also where you assess the spirituality of your
fellow students. If you are right with God or would like people to think you
are, you will stand while you are singing and sway around and maybe close your
eyes and lift up your hands a little bit, especially if your friends are. If you
aren’t right with God and feel terrible about it (chronic impatience with your roommate, repeated helpless making
out with the guitarist, not having consistent quiet times or not witnessing
enough), you’ll sit down and lean forward and radiate
humility. Sometimes your friends who know your struggles pat you on the back
while they sing or they’ll sit down and put their arms around you (and boy do they
look like awesome friends when they do that). If you aren’t right
with God and you don’t care, or if you are right with him but you think mandatory chapel is a crock of shit, you might remain sitting and whisper to your
friends just to make the people who are standing feel uncomfortable, because you’re
pretty sure that if you are judging them then they are judging you.
After praise ‘n worship
you have either liturgical prayers or Scripture readings, depending on how
reformed your school is, and then the Dean of Chapel delivers a message or
homily (so named depending again on degree of reformation). It is a rare homily in which sports are not
the primary analogical inspiration. Most people nod off or do homework at this
point. Guest speakers frequently give the chapel homily. These speakers are usually balding males who are running for some kind of Republican office or assisting
someone who is running for Republican office, and the message is on how God is
using their campaign to make America more godly. Other times the message is
given by students. These messages always feature a slideshow from a recent missions
trip and an accompanying tale of the difficulty they had at first to keep the
right attitude in the intense heat with no running water, and they always conclude with
how much the trip changed them. There aren’t very many female guest speakers at
chapel, come to think of it.
Time passes quicker if you can manage some light petting, as
James Dobson calls it. Whenever you are in a university chapel you are
surrounded by couples with perfect clothes and hair snuggling and holding hands
and rubbing each other’s backs and playing with each other’s hair. Then there’s
always a mad rush to get to class once the service is over. If you went to the
trouble of going to chapel you would like for everyone to know it, so while
waiting for class to start you will discuss the chapel speaker with what you hope is intensity and
dissect the theology in the message while using as many big words as possible.
You can tell which people didn’t go to chapel that morning because they’re the
ones keeping quiet. Also, they’re already
seated and they aren’t out of breath.
If you haven’t fulfilled your chapel quota by the end of the
semester, you are placed on Chapel Probation. Depending on your school you are
then required to attend make-up chapels, pay a fine, or do a report on a
Christian book for every mandatory chapel missed. On top of mandatory chapel,
some schools require you to attend church as well. Church attendance is harder for
them to monitor so it operates on the honor system, and you are exhausted and
bored to tears from all those mandatory chapels, so you usually don’t go and say you did.
This of course has the side effect of extra guilt, as if you didn’t have enough
guilt already at Christian college.
Christian culture is vigilant about persecution. Jesus said being persecuted goes with the territory of following him, and some of those followers are really on the lookout.
Christian culture sees persecution in all sorts of things and they often say they’re under attack. The institution of marriage is under attack, the right to life is under attack, free speech is under attack and on top of all that, the liberal media tries to make them look dumb. Although they say free speech is under attack, they have no use for the ACLU. Some of them call it the Anti-Christian Liberals Union or Anti-Christian Litigation Unit.
Christians say they expect to be persecuted or maligned, but when it actually happens they can be quite indignant. Once criticized/attacked/persecuted they often experience bewilderment, quickly followed by (self-) righteous anger. “How could they possibly perceive me that way?” Well guess what, my Christian cornhole, maybe you’ve just been given the enormous gift of honest truth. Proverbs says that an honest answer is like a kiss on the lips, and if someone just told you the truth then you are not being persecuted. (Sorry.) If it really is persecution, the Apostle Paul said you are blessed for it. Being defensive is your ego talking and it shows that you don’t really trust the one you say you believe in. So tell me again, what was it that comes before a fall? Oh, crap.
When someone in Christian culture meets a delicious non-Christian they will usually assume a missionary position with them.
Missionary dating is when you date a non-Christian for the express purpose of proselytizing so as to instigate their conversion. Youth group leaders heartily disapprove of missionary dating. It is the subject of many a youth pastor sermon.
They say there is nothing inherently wrong with dating a non-Christian but that it is unwise (the line between being unwise and outright sinning appearing blurry and rather mobile, it is often moved about with authority but not always with biblical backing. This helps color in those gray areas). The pastor will sometimes say that scripture indicates that the Christian’s faith actually sanctifies the non-believer in the relationship, but is quick to add that this does not mean dating a non-believer is a good idea. The pastor will also cite the verse “bad company corrupts good morals” and use the term “slippery slope.”
In missionary dating the missionary figure takes the unsaved-savage figure to their hip (Christian culture’s version of hip, anyway) church and hopes to win them with its display of community and cultural relevance. But people can sometimes smell an ulterior motive, and this sixth sense has foiled many a lustily prayed-for conversion.