Safe Place with Ruth Graham

The SCOTUS has ruled on same-sex marriage. They are in favor of same-sex marriage.

I want to remind everyone that SCOTUS is NOT the SUPREME court – God is. And He is not in favor of it. Millenia ago God declared marriage to be the union of one man and one woman. He has not changed His mind as some would suggest.

The 5 men that sit in Washington have shaken their fists in God’s face as has our nation. No nation, or person, has ever gotten away with that. God always has the last word.

There are absolutes in this world. The SCOTUS cannot change them. Nor can POTUS. God’s word and laws are eternal.

We must not call wrong, right. We must not tamper with sacred laws.

It’s not a matter of being a homophobe or racist or a bigot. It’s not a matter of condemnation. It is a matter of holding onto the truth with conviction.

We need to pray as never before. Our culture and society is crumbling before our eyes. All we have to do it look to what happened to Rome as they began to call evil good and wrong right…

I’ve been reading through the Bible this year and over and or again the people “did what was right in their own eyes”. God judged them but when they repented and turned from their evil, He forgave them. Oh, may it be the same for America!

Let us repent and seek forgiveness from the Almighty God and Creator, the one who loves us enough to die for us. He is faithful and just to forgive. It’s not too late.


I heard on the news this morning that we forgive to be free from the hurt an injury. I heard we forgive because God commanded it. I heard we forgive in order to move on from the tragedy.

All that is true but it isn’t the real reason to forgive. The real reason and basis for forgiveness is to reveal the character of God. God is all about forgiveness – it is His nature. The precious people from the AME in Charleston are showing us an example of the character and nature of God. If ever we saw it on display, it was last night.


But, please let us remember, forgiveness is a process. These folks made the choice to forgive now it has to be worked out and lived. It does not meant they won’t get angry, have feelings of revenge, weep, scream…they most assuredly will. But they won’t stay there. The grieving process will begin. It is messy – even for the Christian. But it is healing.

The pain is real. The loss is immense. The grace of God works in and through it to bring God glory. That is what those precious people did last night – glorify God. Our ultimate purpose is to glorify God.



Rachel Dolezal didn’t identify as a white…so she chose to become black. But, in reality, she couldn’t become black. It is something you are or are not. I was born white with white parents, siblings, cousins, grandparents. I am white. No matter how hard I try, I can never be anything else. Rachel changed her hair, deepened her skin color, associated with blacks and their culture, studied African-American studies. She passed herself off as a black woman and was quite good at it – she fooled a lot of people. But she is still a white woman. No matter what. Her natural parents are white.

The former Bruce Jenner didn’t identify as a male. He faked it for a long time.

I am sure there is a great angst in pretending you are something you are not. You must always worry you will be “found out”. Is it worth it.

Recently, someone asked me why I was so transparent I replied, “If I tell on myself then no one can tell on me.” I don’t want to be blindsided by my own sin and faults – and they can show up at the most awkward times! I just find it easier to be honest. Less stressful.

That’s not to say I tell everything I know. Somethings don’t need to be shared. I have seen people try to be honest but tell way too much and the listeners became uncomfortable.  I cannot tell another person’s story – that’s their’s to tell. I get so annoyed when someone comes up to me all excited with someone else’s news…be it good or bad. We should only tell on ourselves. I can only tell on myself – no one else.

So…telling on myself makes life a lot simpler. Yes, I do open myself up to criticism and misunderstanding but I don’t have to pretend to be something I am not. Poor Bruce and Rachel – the years they pretended and where did it get them? Rachel has become a joke and known as a liar. I am distressed for her parents and family. Bruce has become a hero to some – not to me – and is making a large fortune off of his situation. But the story isn’t finished. I suspect he will not be a happy person, content and fulfilled.

I am not sure if it is a “fad”, a trend…but what happened to contentment? Content with race, gender, size, shape, family…somethings we can change. If we don’t like our job, or size, or income we can work to alter that, within reason. God made us as we are and put us where we are. He has a purpose and that purpose is to bring Him glory wherever we are. The Apostle Paul told us, “holiness with contentment is great gain.” (1 Tim. 6: 6) He also told us that  he had learned to be content. (Phil. 4:12) Hebrews tells us to be content with what we have (Heb. 13:5). The Hebrews reference is to material things – but the other references are not limited.

God says He wants truth in the inward parts – down deep where no one sees – but God. King David prayed that God would keep him from hidden faults. Transparency is freeing. It is also God’s desire for us. I don’t think we need to worry about being trans anything. Let’s be content and grateful for what we do have and who we are.


PS – I know these matters are complicated. There are pathological, psychological, sociological issues involved. But there are spiritual issues, too. We make matters worse by compounding them with sin.


There are two new books I’d like to recommend! First a disclaimer: both are written by friends!

Your Sacred Yes, Trading Life-Draining Obligations for Freedom, Passion and Joy by Susie Larson.


Killing Cows, Six Sacred Cows Keeping You from A fully Satisfied Life by Tony Ferraro.

Both are excellent. They can be ordered on Amazon.

I love Susie’s “Faith Declaration”:

I declare in the mighty name of Jesus that I am an anointed, appointed child of God! I am filled with he Holy Spirit and empowered by His love. I walk in the Lord’s presence as I live here on earth. I have eyes to see, ears to hear, and a heart to do His will. I refuse to throw my yes around like it doesn’t matter. It is a gift, and my time is a gift. God invites me to walk with Him and do the next thing He gives me to do. I am loved, called, and fully equipped to live he powerful life God has assigned to me. I refuse the rat race because God has called me to the sacred race. And I will run with holy passion and conviction.

That is just a taste of what is inside her book!

There are 6 sacred cows Tony tackles in his book. Three of them are Judgment, Culture and Fear. You have to buy the book to learn the other three!

Tony says in his book, “Satan desires to separate us from God and from our community. He can do this many different ways, but one key strategy is in the name of “righteousness”. In this case,  by “righteousness” I really mean self-righteousness. Satan will convince us that we are operating on a higher plane and with the clearest point of view. Subsequently, we act alone and without community, precisely where the enemy wants us.”

I recommend both books highly! Enjoy!

Also, Phillip Yancey’s newest book: Vanishing Grace. Talk about “a safe place”!