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Safe Place with Ruth Graham

Safe Place with Ruth Graham

Fix It

posted by Ruth Graham

 

I was away from home tending to my youngest daughter who was in the hospital last week. The doctors discovered she has an aortic aneurysm. We were taken off guard – it was a shock to us – especially her.  Her biggest fear was that she would not live to see “her babies” grow up. She has 4 children – two of them quite young and one of them with special needs. This puts a huge strain on their nerves,  peace of mind, finances – the economy being what it is…. A lot going is on in her life. She is a remarkably strong, young woman.

 

At the same time she was in the hospital, her youngest son had surgery on his head at another hospital. It was not serious surgery but when a little guy is on a ventilator and feeding tube, it is all serious. He is a resilient boy – I have lost count of his surgeries and procedures. We pray that he will outgrow these issues someday – sooner rather than later…

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But I learned that I never quit being a mother. The kids are grown with children of their own but their needs weigh heavily on my heart. I want to figure out how I can ”fix it”. What can I do to help…but I want to do more than help – I want to make it all go away.

 

I know I cannot fix everything or make the hard stuff to go away. And it would not be wise.  We grow strong in the struggle. – they do too.

 

It takes discipline for me to quit trying.  My job is to pray. Be loving and helpful when I can be. Be available as I can be. Advice can be given when asked for… But my role is a supportive one. I had to laugh at myself when I was visiting her in the hospital room and the doctors came in – I was tempted to butt in to ask questions or tell what I knew of the situation. But that is not my role.  I am no longer the “next of kin” – her husband is. Unfortunately, during those days his role was also “breadwinner” so he was not available to her as they both would have liked.

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For those of you who have children, you know what I am talking about. We want our children to be “healthy, wealthy and wise”. We want their lives to be trouble free. But that is unrealistic and they would not mature fully or grow to be strong. They would not learn how to trust God. Their prayer life would be undeveloped. They would not experience the depths of His grace.

 

Does the pain and heartache hurt? You betcha. Are you tempted to quit? Undoubtedly. God wanted us to have a perfect life. He created us perfectly, breathed life into us, provided the companionship of a mate and all the animals, and placed us in a perfectly beautiful environment. That was His original plan… We blew it! You know the story…

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We have been struggling with the affects of that for millennia. We nor our children live  perfect lives and never will. But God was not content to leave it that way…He wanted to “fix it”. He sent His only son, Jesus, to come in human form to experience life as we do. Can you imagine the Almighty Creator being a created one? He subjected Himself to the laws of the universe He himself created. Amazing.

 

He did that to “fix it” for us.  He made a way for us to have a life with Him for eternity. No, it isn’t perfect here and now – it will be one day and until then we can have His Spirit living in us. We can have a peace that passes our understanding, when things go terribly wrong.  We can have joy in the midst of pain and heartache.

 

He has made a way.

 

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Safe in the church??

posted by Ruth Graham

Speaking of “safe places”…Would you put the fish bowl down on the floor in front of a cat? Would you put a martini in front of an alcoholic?

The Catholic Church has been plagued with scandals of sexual abuse. Young boys have been sexually abused by priests for years. It has nearly torn the Church in two.  It has left the young men confused, scared and living in the shadows – for years. They were horrible crimes against these young people by the ones they were taught to trust. The priests were in a place to teac impressionable minds about the ways and nature of God. Their trust was betrayed.

And now the Pope says he is willing for those with homosexual tendencies to in serve in the priesthood. Does that make sense to you?

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He says he isn’t the “one to judge”. He is in a place of authority – he should be, maybe not judging, but discerning what is wise. The whole of catholicism looks to him to have good judgment.  Putting homosexual-oriented men in the priesthood seems very foolish and dangerous to me.

I am not saying that every homosexual priest is a predetor of young men. But it is putting temtpation in the way.

And I understand he is saying men with homosexual tendencies but are celebate and living in purity, should be able to serve. Putting them in the priesthod would seem to me to be very difficult on the men. Like having an alcoholic tend bar. Why do it? Why not allow priests to marry women? (I know the ones with homosexual tendecnies would not want to marry a woman so it doesn’t solve that issue.)

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This will have to be handled with great care and wisdom – strict parameters put in place. Something the Catholic Church in recent history has not done well.

I am not being critical of the Church – far from it. But this seems very foolish. Has the agressive homosexual agenda reached into the Vatican? I pray not. Are we letting our culture define our values?

 

 

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The Media, the Kardashians and Gods Laughter

posted by Ruth Graham

Have you noticed how the media has gone from an obsession over fires out West to  Edward Snowden to George Zimmerman to the royal baby? The media sets the agenda – what is important, what is center stage and for how long. Who gave them that power? We did! And we can take it back.

We need to demand real news. I am so sick of the Kardashians. Who are they and why are they important? Good grief. Who made Jay Z in charge – or Beyonce? They are talented celebrities. But that is all. They are not authorities on anything but entertainment. What is the real value of their work? Every once in a while I look at a celebrity website…I have no idea who these people are. I think they just have high-priced publicists who make sure they get to be famous for doing nothing substantial. We support it all by buying and reading or watching their outlets. I, for one call it quits!

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There are fires still raging out west…and there are folks trying to put their lives back together again after a fire. Do we hear about it?  As far as I know Snowden is still in the Moscow airport. What he did was wrong but the media forcused on where he was rather than the government’s intrusion into our privacy. No one is talking about that- or if they are, the media is not reporting it.

I did hear today that Zimmerman helped a family whose car had overturned.  (I am sure someone will find a way to criticize him for it.) And we will be innundated with royal baby speculation. (I’ll enjoy it as much as the next person – maybe more – but in the scheme of things, is it all that important?) The situation in Syria with its staggering numbers of refugees fleeing into neighboring countries is more than tragic. It has the potential to destabilize that whole region which is vital to the world’s stability.  Does the media say much about that? Does our President? Why?

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I am so grateful that I know God is on His throne. The world’s governments may think they are in charge. Wrong. God is. And as our world governments, UN Councils, Supreme Court, State Assemblies, Congress, Senates, Legislators make their pronouncements, “He who sits in the heavens laughs”.

We better pay attention!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Night Time Prayer in Light of the Verdict

posted by Ruth Graham

We all grieve that a young man died and another’s has been forever alterted. There is no happy ending here. Two mothers grieve. Two families have lost.

And yet there are those who refuse to let them grieve in peace. The press predicted violence and has cameras and recorders at the ready for any hint of unrest. They thrive on it – manipulate it – because it sells and gets ratings. So many of us fall into their cess pool – and when we do we come out stinking like them. If we don’t pay attention, if we don’t react maybe they will quit stirring and inciting.

Where are the peacemakers?

We are not savages and I refuse to be turned into one. Violence will not bring Trayvon Martin back. Our lives have been altered, for sure, but why compound the pain? Why not honor his life instead of destruction? Buy Skittles and hand them out to the children in your neighbrhood. Start a scholarship for young men – black or white or hispanic. That raises a question: why is George Zimmerman not considered a person of color? Do not Hispanics riase the issue of discrimmination against them because of their color?

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So… you have one race calling another race “racist”. While the third race eggs it on. It is crazy. It’s infamatory.  I am sorry, the word and accusation of “racism” is bandied about too quickly.  Stop it already!

If you think laws should change, go work towards that. Be constructive. We are a nation of laws. We have a justice system, flawed though it be. If you don’t like it get busy and help change it. We have the privilege of voting in this country.

This is from A New Zealand Prayer Book:

Lord, it is night.

The night is for stillness. Let us be still in the presence of God.  

It is night after a long day. What has been done has been done; what has not been done; let it be.  

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The night is dark. Let our fears of the darkness of the world and of our own lives rest in you.

The night is quiet. Let the quietness of your peace enfold us, all dear to us, and all who have no peace.

The night heralds the dawn. Let us look expectantly to a new day, new joys, new possibilites.

In your name we pray. Amen.

 

 

 

 

 

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