Safe Place with Ruth Graham

Safe Place with Ruth Graham


Valentine’s Day and loneliness

posted by Ruth Graham

When you are alone at Valentine’s it’s the pits!

The day after Christmas the stores begin hawking Valentine cards, candy, decorations…Everything is about romance and couples. Even the Animal Planet is about couples.

Maybe you’d like to go to a movie that night – but sitting in the theatre by yourself just screams, “She’s alone!”

Our culture doesn’t know how to be alone. I recently went to a church that has a group called “Pairs and Spares”. I’m not sure I’d want to be considered a “spare”! That just seems to devalue the person who is alone.

I read somewhere that 15% of American women send themselves flowers for Valentines. Perhaps to cover up the fact that no one will send them flowers.

It is okay to be alone on Valentines – there are worse things. This year instead of feeling sorry for yourself call some single or widowed friends and have them over for dinner. Keep it simple – can be just soup and salad. Ask the question, “What was your best Valentine’s Day and what was your worst?” Good conversation  starter.

You will have fun – everyone will have a good time and forget their loneliness. Especially you!



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