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Good Intentions and Regret

posted by Ruth Graham

Well, it’s that time of year…time to make resolutions. New Years’ resolutions are famous for breaking them. We have this notion that if we make resolutions we will loose weight, exercise, stop drinking, slow down, volunteer, spend less… if only making a resolution were that easy. No one is watching to see if we follow through so we let them slide and then make jokes about it. They end up simply being a list of good intentions. We are sincere when we make them but during the ensuing 12 months something happens and the good intentions don’t happen. You know what they say: “The road to hell is paved with good intentions”.

Perhaps that speaks to regret. One of the hardest things to live with is regret. Things we wish we could undo. Decisions that could be revisited. Words that should not have been uttered. Money not spent.

I have lived with regret – a lot of it. Many mistakes I wished I could undo. But someone once said, “You can’t steer a car looking in the rearview mirror.” Regret keeps us stuck. Bound. Stagnant. Stale. None of those words are appealing. To move from regret to peace you have to forgive yourself. Easier said than done. I find that the hardest of all to deal with and I have struggled with it.  I have asked for and received forgiveness from a person for some offense. I have asked for and received forgiveness from God for my many sins. He has promised that, “If we confess our sin, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sin and cleanse us.”  (I John 1:9) The Bible also says He removes our sin “as far as the east is from the west.” (Psalms 103:12). What a promise! What freedom!

But do we believe it? Not if we live with regret.

I have finally come to realize that if God Almighty, Creator of the Universe, Savior of the world can forgive me, who am I not to forgive myself? Think about it.



  • Marjan Viki

    With due respect all thank goes to dr.oagala.i will like to share my testimony to you all.i just got married to my husband about 2 years ago we start having problems at home like we stop sleeping on the same bed,fighting about little things he always comes home late at night,drinking too much and sleeping with other women out side.i have never love any man in my life except him.he is the father of my children and i don’t want to loose him because we have worked so hard together to become what we are and have today.few month ago he now decided to live me and the kid,being a single mother can be hard sometimes and so i have nobody to turn to and i was heart broken and in sorrow.i went online looking for help,then i saw a testimony about dr ogala,i was afrad because i have never done any thing like this before.so i gave it a try by contacting him. and explain everything to him,so he promise me not to worry that he will cast a spell that will make him come back to me forever. and also he told me that my problem will be solved within two days if i believe.So he cast a spell for me and after two days my love came back asking me to forgive him.i Am so happy now. if you are there looking for help to get back your EX or any kind of problems dr.ogala is there to help you.if you have try all possible means to get your ex back and it failed,is time for you to put your trust in a holy spell dr.ogala will cast for you.contact email Holyspellcast@gmail.com

  • Dennis Rainey

    who ever is reading this testimony today should please celebrate with me and my family because it all started like a joke to some people and others said it was impossible. my name is James i live in Chicago i am happily married with two kids and a lovely wife something terrible happen to my family along the line, i lost my job and my wife packed out of my house because i was unable to take care of her and my kids at that particular time. i manage all through five years, no wife to support me to take care of the children and there come a faithful day that i will never forget in my life i met an old friend who i explain all my difficulties to, and he took me to a spell caster and and the name of the temple is called, DR. IYARE, i was assure that everything will be fine and my wife will come back to me after the wonderful work of DR. IYARESPELLTEMPLE, my wife came back to me and today i am one of the richest man in my country. i advice you if you have any problem email him with this email: dr.iyarespelltemple@gmail.com and you will have the best result. take things for granted and it will be take from you. i wish you all the best.

    Contact Dr. IYARE on: dr.iyarespelltemple@gmail.com

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