We can recklessly say what we choose, or we can carefully choose what we say. Remember grammas, we are wise because of our life experiences. Our grandchildren are much younger than us. So we must think before we speak.
Here are a few things you may be tempted to say to your grandchildren, but they will not do anyone any good:
- “Don’t tell your mom or dad.” This is teaching your grandchildren it is OK to be dishonest.
- “Boys don’t cry.” Of course boys should cry. They have the same emotions as girls. It is normal to feel emotion and be able to show it.
- “You should be ashamed of yourself.” This makes a young grandchild feel “I am no good or I am not worthwhile.” Instead, “Let’s think together about another way of doing this” turns a negative situation into a positive lesson.
- “Let me do this for you.” Grandmothers, make your grandchildren feel they can conquer the world. Teach them responsibility and independence.
Do Something GOOD Today: Think about these statements and whether you say them to your grandchildren.