Parenting on Purpose

Parenting on Purpose

Positive Parenting-Finding Peace When Overwhelm Sets In

posted by srballantine

Stones BalanceMost parents have, at one time or another, felt overwhelmed with the demands of parenting. Whether you have one child or several, parenting requires an ongoing stream of mental and physical energy. Our world these days require you to wear a myriad of different hats and play many roles.

Feeling overwhelmed can develop gradually; the pressure building up over time. You may even feel as though things are going smoothly, only to suddenly feel it catch up to your mind and body. Sometimes being task oriented can also temporarily disconnect you from noticing you’re not in wellbeing.

Raising happy, healthy kids will always be your priority, and this requires a dance between all the elements and aspects of what you live.

Each child brings it’s unique personality and needs to you which require your creativity. Your child or children may be involved in an array of activities, which keep you on the go, they may require a lot of attention, or they may simply be going through a stage of not getting along with each other. Each situation will inspire a different aspect of our resourcefulness.

In order to maintain your wellbeing and that of the family, it’s important to have personal balance and ease so you are able to guide and inspire your children.

How do you find ease and balance for yourself?

~Be aware of your limits. Each of us has an Internal Guidance System that makes us aware of these limits by how we are feeling. Feeling bad in any way is a signal that you are approaching this threshold.

~Encourage your children to use their own Internal Guidance System when problem solving. Their feelings will always be their true guide.

~Act on the messages you are being given. When you are feeling exhausted, it will serve you to take the time and the space you need to rejuvenate.

~Regular affirmations that “all is well” will reinforce your sense of wellbeing and increase your trust.

~Maintain your alignment (your joy, connectedness to Source) by regularly engaging in whichever practice brings you peace. This may be meditation, time for you, favorite leisure activities etc.

The secret to our positive parenting influence lies in our own wellbeing, so it’s our responsibility to find ways to maintain it. We can only inspire our kids from our wellbeing as they will only find inspiration from a higher energetic than they find themselves at. Creating and maintaining balance will serve our children, our family and us.

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© 2014.  Sharon Ballantine.  All Rights Reserved.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Why Parents Need To Understand The Law Of Attraction

posted by srballantine

Mother's And Kid's Hands In A HeartThe Law of Attraction dictates that you get what you focus on. If you think the world is a bad place, you will experience things that support that belief. If you choose to focus on the positive aspects around you, your experiences will support that. This very basic premise can have a profound impact on you as a parent and your children.

Why is it important for parents to be aware of the Law of Attraction and understand how to apply it in their lives?

Every thought you have exists on a vibrational level. You are a being of energy and you are constantly sending out these vibrations.

You also receive vibrations and attract people and events into your life that are in alignment (a match) with the vibrations you are sending out.

If your predominant thoughts are fear-based, then you will be sending out that energy to the world and to your children.

You will attract events and people that align with that fear-based energy into your life. Not only will you have more scary experiences, your children will unconsciously pick up on this energy and they will be fearful as well.

To raise happy, healthy, loving children, you must learn to be in alignment with the vibration of feeling happy, which will attract all that is wanted.

The first step is to pay attention to how you are feeling. As you see different situations in the world, how do you feel whether you agree with them or not? If you discover that you have a fearful or angry reaction, you must decide if that is what you want to attract into your life.

Some people have had a lot of experience in thinking about or feeling things in a negative way. You can see more of what makes them angry or sad, and less of the things that bring them joy and peace.

Changing this pattern of thinking takes practice, but it can be done. In time, you can develop new pathways in your brain and your overall view will be one that feels good.

When you have a positive outlook on life, your children will unconsciously pick up on that energy.

Even as you develop this new skill at looking at the world through a positive perspective, you are teaching your children positivity as well. Learning how to apply the Law of Attraction and shift your energy towards love and away from fear is one of the most important things a parent can do — for themselves and their children.

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© 2014.  Sharon Ballantine.  All Rights Reserved.

 

Parenting Tools to Teach Kids to Make Sweet Dreams Come True

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Falling flowersDreams are powerful tools, whether they occur during sleep or daydreams. From their first moments, children experience dreams: they are part of every human experience, a necessary part. We don’t always remember our dreams, or even that we do dream—but we do. There are serious negative repercussions when people are deprived from having dreams, even if those dreams are categorized as nightmares.

No parent wants their child to suffer from nightmares, but having a bad dream is part of our human experience. Sleeping dreams are a product of our subconscious. They help balance our lives and help us work out situations we are going through on a subconscious level. Even though we wish our children “sweet dreams” when they go to bed, for most people dreams seem to be out of our control.

Daydreams are often fantasy-like. While they are part of our subconscious too, it is easier to help steer our daydreams and even come back to them later. Ironically, many of the same people who wish their kids “sweet dreams” at night view daydreams as a waste of time and encourage their children to not “stare off into space.”

Parents have several powerful tools they can use to help teach their children to take control of their dreams—during the day and while asleep. By teaching our children the importance of our literal and figurative dreams, and giving them the power to help manipulate them, we teach them how powerful they are and they can make their sweet dreams come true.

If your child is experiencing a lot of nightmares or unpleasant dreams, a dream catcher may help. Many Native American tribes used dream catchers to help children and adults with their dreams. A dream catcher consists of a hoop with woven net with a hole in the center. Feathers adorn the hoop. The dream catcher helps protect us while we sleep by catching the negative dreams in its net. When the sun rises, the dreams are exposed and are destroyed. Positive dreams travel through the hole in the center of the net and slide down the feathers, falling on us as we sleep.

There are also tools you can use to teach your child to make his positive dreams come true. Many people are familiar with dream, or vision, boards. A twist on this is a “dream pillow” that your child can then sleep on at night.

The dream pillow can take on a variety of forms. Some children want a special pillow they use only when they are having troubling dreams. Others like to speak their wishes into their pillowcase in the evening. This can be done with a parent or alone, and a child of any age can give voice to his dreams and breathe them into existence this way. Writing words and drawing pictures on a pillowcase is another way to create a dream pillow. This can be done by the child by herself or with help of Mom or Dad.

Encourage your child to talk about their dreams, both positive and negative, their literal dreams and what they would like to have happen in their lives. Help them to take charge of their nighttime dreams and to create positive dreams while they sleep. By creating a dream pillow, children are putting a message into their subconscious about what they want. They are also sending that message to the Universe. With no conscious resistance to that desire, they are in alignment with what they desire, and they are on their way to manifesting their desires.

As the song says, “Sweet dreams are made of this…who am I to disagree”?

Please feel free to comment.

© 2014.  Sharon Ballantine.  All Rights Reserved.

 

Parenting Teens: Ditch the Disapproval

posted by srballantine

group of young people It isn’t always easy to watch your children make decisions that are different from what you would wish for them. No matter what, it is important that you be their support system rather than a constant source of disapproval.

Since you don’t really want your children to be your exact copy, you have to allow them the freedom to make their own decisions and to create their own ways of engaging the world. It will be much easier to ditch your disapproval if you have taught your teens to trust their Internal Guidance Systems (IGS) and to be in alignment with their highest selves. This means they are connected to Source and their joy.

You cannot provide a more positive message to your teenagers than empowering them to develop into their own authentic, individual, selves.
When you say one thing, but your vibration (what you’re feeling) contradicts that message, that means you are not in alignment. In this case, your words are loving, with love being the highest vibration in the Universe, but your thoughts are negative. Negative breeds a very different vibration, a much lower one.

Your children are very sensitive to your emotions on a vibrational level. That means you don’t have to tell your son that you disapprove of his behavior, or give your daughter “that” look. They already know. Even though you might say positive words, and while they hear what you’re saying, they feel your vibrational message much more powerfully.

Your children pick up on this dissonance, and not only do they not feel completely loved, but they begin to distrust their own IGS. They want to believe your words, but they will be more profoundly affected by the energy they feel from you than by what you say, or even what you do.

In order for you to have a positive influence on your teenagers, you must be in alignment. Your power as a human being rests in being in alignment. Not only are you at your best as a parent when you are in alignment, but you are at your best as a person, period. This is a powerful example you can provide for your teens.

What does it mean to be a parent in alignment? A parent who is in alignment sees the best in their children and expects the best from them. Your thoughts, actions, and desires for your children need to match.

Since it is challenging for your children to feel your love when you are sending out mixed messages, it is up to you to recognize when you are out of alignment. Once you recognize your need to align, you can do something about it. One simple way to do this is to leave the room for a few minutes until you can feel your energy flow back into alignment.

With this simple positive parenting tip, you again see your children though love. Disappointment disappears and you can appreciate the person they are becoming, even when they are quite different from you.

This allows your teenagers to feel your love is authentic and also gives them a powerful lesson to model when they find themselves out of alignment.

Please feel free to comment.

© 2014.  Sharon Ballantine.  All Rights Reserved.

 

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