Parenting on Purpose

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As much as you might think you’d like to be able to raise your kids in a safe bubble where you control everything, it isn’t possible and not even in your children’s best interest. I wish that the scariest things our kids experienced were only ghost stories told over campfires and at sleepovers, but they will more likely have other scary experiences in their lives. It’s important for parents to know how to talk to their kids about scary topics.

As a believer in the Law of Attraction (LOA), you might wonder if talking about scary topics will actually attract more danger into your kids’ lives. Even if you don’t wonder about that, you can probably imagine how a child you’ve been teaching to use the LOA could make that connection, as whatever we focus on and give our energy and attention to is attracted. This means that you should know how to talk about scary things, but you have to do it in the context of the LOA which means not dwelling on what you don’t want.

Of course, all conversations of this nature can be tailored to your specific child. Using language that is appropriate for his or her age and understanding. If you have older children, you may want to have separate additional conversations with them, but include them in the family conversations whenever possible as additional support for the younger members.

Some of the scary topics could include what to do in a natural disaster such as a fire or flood. These can serve as a “ground floor” conversation for other subjects that may seem scary to a child.

As powerful as the Law of Attraction is, you don’t have control over other people or things. Mother Nature is no exception; you don’t want to be fearful and dwell on what could potentially happen, because that could draw unwanted experiences into your life.

On the other hand, if you think about how wonderful the world is and express gratitude for being safe, then you’re attracting positive experiences and teaching your kids to do the same. Practice this mindset into a strong belief.

With this attitude, you can be prepared for situations that are outside of your control. A plan of action and emergency kits don’t send out positive or negative energy into the world as long as there is no intense (energy)emotion behind it. By being prepared, you may no longer have to worry about what you’ll do if a disastrous event occurs. This means you’re not focusing on events you don’t want to bring into your life, as fear attracts what you don’t want.

Fire safety is often discussed in schools and you can use the lessons as a great emergency preparation topic for your family. Every family member should know what the plan is, how to exit the house if the front door is obstructed, or if someone happens to be upstairs or in the basement.

Another key part of the plan will be to designate a rendezvous place in the event you get separated while exiting the house, or in the event that not everyone is home at the time.

Talking about your plan will not be enough, and you can make the exercise fun. Your family can practice executing the plan, including meeting at your designated place.

The American Red Cross and other emergency relief organizations suggest that every person have a plan and their own emergency kit that is their responsibility to grab on the way out. This is a good idea in case you and your children get separated. Some recommended items for the kit are a toothbrush and toothpaste, a flashlight, a notepad and pencil or pen, a bottle of water, a light change of clothes, and even a space blanket.

While you want to keep this kit light and easy to manage, it is important to include something that will help comfort your child. This may be a small stuffed toy, a favorite book, or a photo of the family. An easy way to keep all these items handy is inside an inexpensive pillowcase that they keep under their bed or inside their closet.

Inside the notepad, you can have written important family information including your child’s name, your name, your address and cell phone number, as well as another emergency contact. If your son or daughter has any medical conditions, these should also be written down here for police or fire department personnel.

It’s very comforting to have affirmations and loving thoughts for your son or daughter to read inside the notepad. This will help them remember that you’re all safe and loved. Be sure to create a notepad for yourself, too. Include recent photos of each family member. This will be reassuring for you if you do get separated and will be a great help to emergency personnel in locating and reuniting your family.

Talking about scary events like being separated in a fire will not attract an emergency into anyone’s life. Being prepared and fostering a strong belief in your safety may be the best insurance that you need in order to avoid such an event. At the very least if it does happen, then you’ll be in the best possible, most positive mindset, assured that your family knows what to do.

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© 2014. Sharon Ballantine. All Rights Reserved.

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