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Teach Your Kids To Know, By Feeling It.

posted by srballantine

ice_creamI have been told that Missouri is known as the Show-Me state. The exact origin of this unofficial state slogan is unclear and has been widely debated. Many people within the Missouri borders and far beyond believe that the only things that are real and true are things they can see first-hand. However, the idiom Seeing is believing, was first recorded back in the 1600’s, so Missouri doesn’t hold any sort of copyright or trademark to the concept.

Certainly no parent wants their child to be gullible and fall for every con and scam that comes along.
This is why many people teach their children to trust things they can actually see or touch, but physical proof isn’t necessarily the answer.
People who believe that they have to see something in order to believe it will always be dependent on someone else — someone to show them the path and someone to help them along that path, but will it be the RIGHT path?
Parents who teach their kids to check in with their own Internal Guidance System give them a big advantage on the path to happy lives. When you learn to tap into your IGS, you become independent. You are in alignment with your true nature, and it’s something that no one else can show you. You must feel it for yourself.
The more you practice touching base with your IGS, the better you get at interpreting your feelings. Children have a good sense of when something feels good or not, especially at the extremes. In those instances, the preference is clear, like a choice between vanilla or chocolate ice cream. This idea is true for children of all ages.
It can be more of a challenge when your feelings aren’t as strong. That is why frequently checking is so important. Just as you can teach your taste buds to distinguish between plain vanilla, French vanilla, and vanilla bean ice cream, you can also become attuned to the vibrational shifts between subtle variations in happiness or displeasure and to what feels right or wrong for you.
You learn to distinguish between the two by trying things out. You taste the various types of vanilla ice cream in order to appreciate the differences, and to determine which you like best. Once you have that figured out, you no longer have to keep trying the flavors you don’t like. You continue to hone your tastes based on your personal experience.
You do the same thing with your vibration. You can try new experiences and see how you feel thinking about it, as well as during and after the actual experience. Beforehand, you might have had some anxiety or excitement. Was it a good or bad feeling? Was your IGS directing you away from the experience or towards it?
The very first time you might not be able to tell the difference between having the jitters and being warned away from something. This is true for anyone who hasn’t learned to tap into their IGS. Some kids will experience the jitters before going on stage, but it is excitement and they know they’re alive and that energy is coursing through their bodies.
For other kids, those jitters are just fear and nothing will shift this stage presence into a positive experience. What is important for your kids to know is that with practice and awareness, everyone can learn to distinguish between the two extremes. However, the distinction is something only they can make and it may be very different from how their siblings or friends interpret that experience. Each of us have a life path that is individual and unique.

What do you think?

© 2014.  Sharon Ballantine.  All Rights Reserved.



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