As a law of attraction coach, I have always used this law in my parenting. What is the Universal Law of Attraction? It is the law that governs our Universe and responds to what we are thinking, therefore feeling. This response comes to us in the form of our thoughts experiences and people. We manifest into our experience whatever matches our feelings. Positive thinking attracts positive wanted things and negative thinking attracts unwanted negative things. Have you ever noticed this?
I learned through living daily life with my kids how to work with the laws of the universe to have the relationship I wanted with them and to elicit positive behaviors as well. Since “like attracts like” I had to learn through practice that whatever I was feeling when I interacted with my kids, is what I would get back from them, most of the time. Being angry never got me what I wanted and only taught them how to respond in anger. That was not what I wanted my children to learn from me.
Since a spirit of cooperation was at the top of my desire list, as I mentioned before, I had to practice and choose to not react to whatever they were doing. There were times when I had to excuse myself from the room and find a way to return to a good feeling place, because only then could there be the possibility of them hearing me. This was essential if we were to have any productive communication whatsoever.
What about when we are doing our best to communicate from a place of calm and they aren’t cooperating? They are choosing to react in anger even with our best efforts! There were many times this happened to me. One time, my daughter was very emotional and had become angry at my asking about the school homework she had due. I took a slow deep breath and reinforced to myself that I had a choice. I could react in the same way she had, or I could respond with love and understanding, which would create a better chance at diffusing the situation. It’s impossible to have an argument if another person isn’t participating. I chose to not participate.
Over time, I had practiced this way of being so many times that I wasn’t to be swayed. I could maintain my calm the majority of the time. There were occasions when I took my deep breath and I excused myself from the room. I didn’t return and engage with my child until I felt better and in control. When we can maintain our calm, we offer a chance for resolution and good communication.
My kids eventually learned that in order to feel good and have a good chance at getting what they wanted, they had to know they always have a choice in how they respond to life and the people in their lives. This was one of the best lessons for them to use in creating and attracting what they wanted.
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