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David Letterman Marries: Shared Stress?

David Letterman married his long-time main squeeze Regina Lasko. Will marriage change them? Will all this publicity add stress to their relationship?
Janice Taylor, Life & Happiness Coach, has some tips on how to talk it out when you and your partner are stressed to your last nerve.
How much stress is appropriate to share with your spouse, partner, significant other … your main squeeze? What’s the difference between sharing and dumping?
True, you need to vent and an important part of a relationship revolves around sharing your life, letting the other person know what’s going on, as well as asking for support; giving support. Leaning on each other … all important parts of a relationship.
Nevertheless, before you dump – ‘talk at’ the other person, here follows a few truly helpful and useful guidelines:
Ask Permission: “Is this a good time to listen? I need to share the gruesome details of my crazy day.” If the answer is “NO!” Respect that No! Ask, “Please let me know when it is a good time.
Timing: Before you launch into your bucket list of upset, frazzled nerves and complaints (all justified, of course), do check in with your main squeeze to see if he or she is equally stressed.
Be Clear: Are you sharing, looking for feedback, or just need a place to be heard. If all you want is to be heard. Start the conversation off with “Please, do not respond. Just listen -intently! I need you to be with me. That’s all.”
Time Yourself: Vent, talk, share … dump … whatever you want to call it for a maximum of one minute and then check in and see if the person is still with you. Really 30 seconds would be better. Don’t take advantage of the ‘sharee.’
Responsibility: Ultimately, it is your stress. Support is GREAT! But no one can singularly ‘fix it.
Special Note: For further insight into the machinations of relationships, I checked in with Peter Weinstein, LCSW, Psychotherapist, Relationship Expert.
Mr. Weinstein adds, “Being sensitive to your partner’s needs is one of the most important components of a successful relationship. Just as YOU want respect and appreciation, so does your partner/spouse. Putting yourself in the ‘others’ shoes and considering his/her needs (without sacrificing your own need) is true empathy and the cornerstone of relational/marital bliss.”
Spread the stress-free word … NOT the icing!
Janice

Happy Links:
Stress and the Belly Fat Cure!
Profound Paths to Health, Healing and Happiness
Ten Recession Proof Stress Busters
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Janice Taylor is a Life & Wellness Coach, specializing in weight loss, reinvention, transformation & happiness, author, seminar leader and 50-pound-BIG-Time-LOSER! Write Janice for an Introductory Coaching Session.
For more motivation and inspiration, join the Kick in the Tush Club: Beliefnet Chapter.
Pick up a copy of Janice’s latest: All Is Forgiven, Move ON ~ Our Lady of Weight Loss’s 101 Fat-Burning Steps on Your Journey to Sveltesville!
“Janice Taylor is a certain kind of kooky genius ~ see if her idiosyncratic diet plan will work for you.” ~ O, The Oprah Magazine
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Mt Redoubt: Is Your Inner Volcano Erupting?

This morning’s hot topic (literally and figuratively)…

Alaska’s Mt. Redoubt volcano erupted late Monday and early Tuesday in “four large explosions,” sending an ash plume an estimated 50,000 feet into the air, the Alaska Volcano Observatory reported.”

… brought to mind our inner volcanoes. You know, that piece of us that gets overly reactive when set off; that piece that spews anger and loses control!
Before you blow a fuse, spew hot lava from your inner-volcano, try on these
“Tips to Tame Mount Redoubt”
Tip #1: NOTICE: Be aware of what is triggering your anger and rather than going straight to spewing, put your feelings into words so that you can ‘act’ rather than ‘react.’
Tip #2: STOP: Give yourself at least one minute to ‘neutralize.’ Take in a few deep cleansing breaths. Ahhhhh.
Tip #3: THINK: Consider at least three potential solutions to the problem; and then consider their outcomes.
Tip #4: CHOOSE: Now that you have ‘noticed’ what is going on; stopped to give yourself a moment to ‘neutralize,’ and ‘thought’ threw a few options; Choose a course of action!
Tip #5: WALK AWAY: Remember that walking way from a conflict is always an option. Saying nothing; doing nothing is sometimes the more powerful approach – the smartest path to take.
Tip #6: SEEK HELP: If you find that you are frequently in ‘volcano’ mode, perhaps you might consider reaching out to a profession that can help you work it through in an appropriate way and setting!
Tip #7: DO NOT STUFF IT: Food is NOT the answer. Stuffing down your feelings will not help. Write it out (as mentioned above). Talk it out (with a counselor or a trusted friend). Scribble it out, doodle it out, sing it out, let it out!!!
Spread the word … NOT the icing!
Janice

Happy Links: Ten Ways to Make Your Day a Good One
How to Make an Affirmation Container
Improve Your Luck
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Janice Taylor is a Life & Wellness Coach, specializing in weight loss, reinvention, transformation & happiness, author, seminar leader and 50-pound-BIG-Time-LOSER! Write Janice for an Introductory Coaching Session.
For more motivation and inspiration, join the Kick in the Tush Club: Beliefnet Chapter.
Pick up a copy of Janice’s latest: All Is Forgiven, Move ON ~ Our Lady of Weight Loss’s 101 Fat-Burning Steps on Your Journey to Sveltesville!
“Janice Taylor is a certain kind of kooky genius ~ see if her idiosyncratic diet plan will work for you.” ~ O, The Oprah Magazine
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Dog’s Listen: Your Sunday Puzzle

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This week’s Our Lady of Weight Loss jigsaw puzzle was inspired by the Jewish proverb … “No one is as deaf as the man who will not listen.”
For tips on how to listen … go to: Listen Up!
For tips on self-hypnosis … go to: Affirmations!
And to hear what a KITT Club member says about Food Demons and Voices of Doubt, go to: Food Demons!
Spread the word … NOT the icing,
Janice

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Janice Taylor is a Life & Wellness Coach, specializing in weight loss, reinvention, transformation & happiness, author, seminar leader and 50-pound-BIG-Time-LOSER! Write Janice for an Introductory Coaching Session.
For more motivation and inspiration, join the Kick in the Tush Club: Beliefnet Chapter.
Pick up a copy of Janice’s latest: All Is Forgiven, Move ON ~ Our Lady of Weight Loss’s 101 Fat-Burning Steps on Your Journey to Sveltesville!
“Janice Taylor is a certain kind of kooky genius ~ see if her idiosyncratic diet plan will work for you.” ~ O, The Oprah Magazine
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Follow Janice on Twitter:
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Water Day: Drink Enough Holy Water to Frighten Noah …

The Ten Commandments of Permanent Fat Removal: Commandment #7: “Thou shalt drink enough Holy Water to frighten Noah and map out all the restrooms in thy village.”10CommandFRON.jpg
Today is National Water Day!
A good time to remember that drinking water is IMPORTANT!!!!
Because …
We are mostly water. Between 60% and 70% of our body weight is water; our brains are 75% water. Imagine how dried up your thinking is without water? Your skin? Wrinkle city!!! Your intestinal track? Can anything glide through it??? A deficiency of water can alter the concentration of electrolytes such as sodium, potassium, and chloride. Water has a profound effect on brain function and energy levels!
Drink at least half your body weight in ounces of fresh water daily! I know that you think you’ll have to stop at every bathroom from here to Timbuktu, but not true. Your body will adjust rather quickly and happily!
For those of you who are just not into water, try fruit flavored water.
Fruit2O has just come out with a new line of flavored waters that are drenched in vitamins and minerals!
Bottoms Up!
And for those who would like the full 10 Commandments: click here!
Spread the Word … NOT the icing,
Janice

Fat-Blowing Links:
The Evils of Sugar & HFCS (NY Times article)
Just Listen!
Stew, Better than Vegetable Soup
13 Ways to Improve Your Luck
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Janice Taylor is a Life & Wellness Coach, specializing in weight loss, reinvention, transformation & happiness, author, seminar leader and 50-pound-BIG-Time-LOSER! Write Janice for an Introductory Coaching Session.
For more motivation and inspiration, join the Kick in the Tush Club: Beliefnet Chapter.
Pick up a copy of Janice’s latest: All Is Forgiven, Move ON ~ Our Lady of Weight Loss’s 101 Fat-Burning Steps on Your Journey to Sveltesville!
“Janice Taylor is a certain kind of kooky genius ~ see if her idiosyncratic diet plan will work for you.” ~ O, The Oprah Magazine
ART heart.jpg about Janice
Follow Janice on Twitter:
Facebook!

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