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Drop Dead Diva: Judging Fat People

KICKOL-LOGO.jpgOnce upon a time, many fat moons ago, when I was at my heaviest in all possible ways (both body and soul), I took a mid-day break from the madness.
Dressed loosely in what could have been characterized as a ‘moo moo,’ I set ‘sail’ across Madison Avenue in search of a steak roll-up.
Midway across the divide, I heard the honk of a full-sized truck and the bellow of its driver, “Hey Lady! I know you’re too old to be pregnant. MOVE IT!”
Ouch! Double injury. Fat and old.
This week’s episode of Drop Dead Diva touched on the many cruel and insensitive things that are said to and thought about ‘fat’ people.
Judgment 101: The WHY of it.
Have you ever wondered why we are so fond of judging each other? We all do it. Don’t we? We judge people every day by the way they look, dress, walk, talk, think, and how they act.
We are judging machines. What’s it all about? Why do we partake in something so hurtful and low?
The Bible says, “Judge not, lest you be judged.”
One of the moral disciplines of the Buddhist Eightfold Path is “Right Speech.” Right Speech suggests that we do not “slander others or speak in a way that causes disharmony or enmity” nor should we “indulge in idle talk or gossip.”
In Talmudic tradition, it is believed that the evil tongue, “Lashon ha-ra,” is a weapon of destruction, one that spreads hatred, lies and most of all slander.
And yet we continue to judge.
Judgment stems from fear. It is a dysfunctional way of protecting ourselves. We project how we feel about ourselves onto others. We put them down so that we can feel superior and bring ourselves up.
Food for thought.
How many times a day do you judge others or have negative thoughts about others? How many times a day do you look at someone and reject them because you don’t like the way they look? Too fat? Too thin? Too ugly? Too pretty?
Join with Our Lady of Weight Loss’s KICK IN THE TUSH CLUB and me, as we practice “Right Speech” for the next 24 hours.
One day a time!
More to chew over.
Drop Dead Diva: Thin girl dies, steps into fat body
Gastric Bypass: How much is ‘fat’ costing Americans?
Diets don’t work: A Kick in the Tush Does!
Eat This: Lose 50 Pounds
Spread the word … NOT the icing,
Janice

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Sunday Puzzle: Love Your Inner Chubby Child

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This week’s Sunday JigSaw Puzzle entitled “Love Your Inner Chubby Child” was inspired by Our Lady of Weight Loss’s yesterday blog-post. “Fat Daughter: A Punishment from God.”
Even though I have permanently removed 50 pounds of excess weight, my inner chubby child still lives within. Here’s to you, Inner Chubby Child! You are my ‘softer’ side.
How do you honor and love your inner child?
Sunday Musings:
Was it a God Wink? Or … a Kick in the Tush?
Good Eats for Your Afternoon
Diets Don’t Work! Transformational Journeys Do
Spread the word … NOT the icing,
Janice

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Fat Daughter: A Punishment from God?

Dear Our Lady of Weight Loss ~ My daughter is fat and it is breaking my heart. Please help me to help her lose weight. ~ Parent of Fat Child
WARNING: My head is spinning, and it may well explode. Not pretty!
This Beliefnet.com Blogger has this month (and we are only 3/4 of the way through it) received a record number of emails from readers seeking advice on how to ‘fix’ their child. Actually, now that I think about it, they were asking advice on how to ‘fix’ their daughters. Not a fat son amongst us? Anyway – that’s another topic, hey? … I do digress.
All those missives gave me a headache, as I flashed-back to my troubled ‘fat’ youth and the memory of my mother, on one particularly trying day, saying to me through tear-stained eyes, “It’s such a shame that you have such a big behind.”
Shame delivered, picked-up and packed-on!
And so, to those who are thinking, “Wow, my child is fat. How can I fix her?” I’d like to give you a Kick in the Tush, and serve up a few choice words Our Lady of Weight Loss style!

Our Lady of Weight Loss’s Eight Honest, Straight and Digestible Points of “LITE” for You and Your Child

1. Knock it off! I could be wrong (rarely :), but it sounds to me like you are more concerned about your broken heart than the health and happiness of your child. Get over yourself. Remove yourself from the equation. This isn’t about you!
2. Punishment from God? A ‘weight loss’ reduction program/conversation is more than likely going to be perceived by your child as a form of punishment. And why wouldn’t it be? Don’t you think of ‘dieting’ as one of the great injustices and punishments in your life?
3. Get Moving. Are you (and the family) gathering around the boob-tube each and every night, snacking together as you watch “The Biggest Loser?” Or are you setting up a game of badminton or horseshoes in your backyard? How about joining or creating a family bowling league? For you apartment dwellers, how about a game of twister?
4. Eat Healthy. Are you eating healthfully? What foods are you serving? What kind of snacks do you have in your home? Do not even think about telling me that you ‘have to’ buy chips, chocolate and cookies for your husband or son – or for the matter for the other skinny sister.
5. Educate Yourself and Your Child. Rather than harping on the negative, i.e. your child’s big behind, why not learn about nutrition and talk up the health benefits of watermelon? And definitely learn the art of reading a food label! Teach yourself and your child!
6. Happy Mealtime. Make mealtime a happy family time. Sit down and discuss the highlights of your day over a plethora of fresh vegetables, whole grains, and organic foods a plenty.
7. Shop Together. Ask for your child’s input. Sit down and create a list of high-nutrient foods. If your child says, “I’d really like a chocolate donut.” See if you can figure in one sweet (perhaps, a one-oz. square of dark chocolate) along with a fruit salad. And if your child still wants the donut, buy one tiny pack of pre-portioned mini-donuts. Remember God’s 10 Commandments and the forbidden fruit!
8. Love Trumps Fat. Love yourself and your child just as you are. There is nothing ‘wrong’ with your child. She does not need to be ‘fixed.’ Open your eyes. Witness the true beauty of the person who is standing before you.
Bottom line.
Be aware of the message that you are putting down for your child to pick up.
Lead by example. Create a happy and healthy home.
More Health and Happiness!
Stuck on Chocolate?
Coach Yourself Thin: What are YOU willing to do?
How do YOU stop yourself?
Spread the word … NOT the icing,
Janice

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Join the Our Lady of Weight Loss’s Kick in the Tush Club: Beliefnet Chapter.
Write Janice Taylor, Health & Wellness Coach, Certified Hypnotist, Author and 50-pound big-time-loser for an introductory one-on-one coaching session.
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Weight Loss God Wink? No Excuses?

KICKOL-LOGO.jpgDo you believe in God Winks? The dictionary meaning of a God wink is “something taken as evidence that a higher power is at work; a coincidence.”
SQuire Rushnell, author of “When God Winks at New Beginnings,” Beliefnet blogger brother, says that a God Wink gives us a “sense of comfort at a time when you are looking for hope.” God Winks are hugs of comfort from God. Little things that happen every day.
Well, this past week, I think God winked at me, but I’m not exactly sure if He winked, or just gave me a kick in the tush.
As you know, I am a Weight Loss Coach and have been blessed to work with a wide range of people from all parts of the country.

Not to get too side-tracked here, but I have to interject that I’ve learned that no matter what part of the country we come from, no matter our family structure, dysfunction, drama, age, life experiences, or religion, we have much more in common than you might imagine. We are sisters and brothers, we are one. Okay … that being said, I’ll return to my point.

While talking to one client, she came to the conclusion (maybe helped by my coaching?) that her “reasons” for her gaining weight were actually “excuses.” Medication was one really good reason, because it says so on the bottle. “This medication may cause weight gain.” But after closer examination of the actual foods she was eating (pancakes with syrup and bacon), she had to admit that she was using her reason as an excuse.
Another client shared that her husband has “diabetes” and that he needs a sugar lift now and then (when blood levels dip), so she keeps a bag of M&M peanuts in her house for him, which she apparently dips into as well. Her husband’s diabetes looked like a real enough reason. By the end of our session, she was able to come up with an alternative list of appropriate foods to help her husband, something other than her favorite candy.
Okay … are you following me? Reasons vs. excuses! Fast forward, I am standing on the scales of injustice at my doctor’s office, and for goodness sake, I am up 4 pounds up. “How did that happen?” I say incredulously! And then I hear myself saying, “Well, the reason I gained …”
Thankfully, God had winked at me enough times during the week enabling me to see the errors of my ‘weigh’ and self-correct! “No excuses.” I said, “I overindulged plain and simple. Not to worry though, as Our Lady of Weight Loss says You can let the pounds visit but not move back in.”
Nevertheless, I wondered, is God winking at me or just plain giving me a Kick in the Tush?
What do you think? Was God winking at me? Giving me a Kick in the Tush? Or both?
More from the Our Lady of Weight Loss Angels
Does God want you to be fat?
Food Demons and Voices of Doubt
God Eventually: Moments of Weight Loss Grace
Spread the word … NOT the icing,
Janice

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Our Lady of Weight Loss: Miraculous and Motivational Musings from the Patron Saint of Permanent Fat Removal an OPRAH BOOK CLUB pick: Summer 2009 – Buy NOW!
Join the Our Lady of Weight Loss’s Kick in the Tush Club: Beliefnet Chapter.
Write Janice Taylor, Health & Wellness Coach, Certified Hypnotist, Author and 50-pound big-time-loser for an introductory one-on-one coaching session.
Visit Our Lady of Weight Loss.
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