People say that they simply do not have time to take care of themselves; they have no time to do the things that they need to do to be create happy and healthy lives.
They tell me that they can’t take a vacation, even if they leave their kids with the kids’ grandparents. They tell me that they “can’t – can’t – can’t” do anything for themselves, because it would mean that they are selfish, which reduces down to bad – bad – bad, which is accompanied with platters full of guilt – guilt -guilt!!! Sound familiar?
All selfish means is that you care enough about yourself to get your needs met. And yes, you may need to put yourself ahead of others to do so, but seriously folks – as Eda LeShan* said, “When we truly care for ourselves, it becomes possible to care far more profoundly about other people.”
To help us put selfish into perspective, let’s look at ‘need vs. want’ for a moment. Needs and wants are very different. I need to take some time to walk daily in order to exercise my body, clear my head, breathe deep, calm myself, so that I can create health, be present and have a productive day. However, I may want to take all the papers on my desk and burn them, and head off in an R.V. to the Rocky Mountains for a year, without leaving a forwarding address! A little drastic, perhaps, but you get the point.
Giving yourself what you fully need is the same as feeding your soul! The ‘thing’ that you are giving yourself is helping you to be your authentic self, to operate at your very best. The more selfish or self-full you become, the more you have to give. The less you weigh! Think about that and…
Chew on the differences between:
Selfish vs. Self-full
Need vs. Want
*Eda LeShan (June 6, 1922 – March 3, 2002) was an American writer, television host, counselor, educator, and playwright. She was a “voice of respect for the inherent integrity of children.” LeShan’s books include When Your Child Drives You Crazy, The Conspiracy Against Childhood, and It’s Better to be Over the Hill than Under It. She was the host of How Do Your Children Grow? on PBS in the 1970s.
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