No one is as deaf as the man who will not listen.” ~ Jewish Proverb
Just Listen! Imagine what it would be like if we really listened to each other? You know, instead of half-listening; instead of ‘sort of’ paying attention while multi-tasking, or just plain zoning out, or – most commonly – anxiously awaiting for the ‘listenee’ (a.k.a. speaker) to pause for a millisecond, so that you can jump right in with your brilliance.
While you are chewing on that, read on
The DO NOT’s of ACTIVE LISTENING!!!
Do NOT allow your brain to race ahead of your lips! We speak at about 100 to 150 words per minute, but we think at 250 to 500. Just listen!
DO NOT anticipate what will be said. Just listen!
DO NOT be distracted by the people or things around you. Keep your eyes focused on the “listenee.” Just listen!
DO NOT interrupt. Allow her/him to finish their thought. Just listen!
DO NOT plan your responses as the speaker is speaking. Just listen!
DO NOT give advice unless specifically asked for it. Just listen!
DO NOT share every single story from your own life that might relate to what the “listenee” is saying. Just listen!
It’s not as easy as it sounds!!!
Spread the word … NOT the icing,