You may say that you want to tackle ‘the’ problem, solve it, handle it and move on, but If you have been ‘working on’ the same problem for more than, let’s say, a decade (is that enough time to tackle it?), then maybe you are doing one or more of these 5 things to ensure that your problem stays with you!

  1. Deny It.   If you are faced with a situation or event that is too uncomfortable or upsetting to accept, just plain deny it.You can either deny it in its entirety.  “What problem? There’s no problem here.”

    -or-

    You can admit that the problem exists, but say with conviction, “It’s not as bad as it looks.”

  2. Avoid It.   You can avoid your problem by steering clear of it, dodging it or sidestepping it, but know this:  the inevitable showdown is lurking in the dark shadows of your sidesteps.  The energy that you are using to avoid the problem is more than likely far greater than the energy needed to simply handle it.
  3. Resist It.   Fight it down, push it back; simply put, do not feel the unpleasant emotions that accompany your problem.  You can attempt to wrestle your feelings out of existence.  A fruitless endeavor, by the way.  At some point, the emotions will rise and bite you in the tush!
  4.  Blame It.  For goodness sake, the problem isn’t your fault, is it?  Pass it on; blame someone else or blame the circumstances. You’ve not been short on excuses in the past, have you?  Go for it!
  5. Resigned to It.  Join me as I throw my arms up in the air and say, “Oh well.”  If the problem is too big for you to handle, just admit defeat.  If the role of victim suits you, wear it!

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Janice
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