I’ve been wearing a fat suit since birth. (Or was – best to be aware of the words we use and how they affect our unconscious minds and behaviors!) Yes, I was the only baby who gained weight in the hospital nursery, an ominous sign, and by the time I was 8 years old, I weighed 112 pounds. Thankfully my friend Belinda (name changed to protect the innocent) weighed 113 pounds. She was the fat one! And the rest is FATstory, as they say!
You could say that wearing a fat suit was my identity. It was all I’d ever known. I was the fat girl. I was the fat girl who was always (and I mean always) picked last in gym. I was the girl that the kids called “Fatty Lu.” I was fat. Some of us are born with ‘fat issues;’some collect them along the way.
I understand that we want to lose that weight soooo badly that we can taste it! But if you don’t know the person who resides underneath the fat, if you so closely identify with the excess layers, if the fat is protecting ‘you’ in any way, shape or form, it is difficult to imagine any other weigh or way.
These excess layers of fat may keep you safe from:
* Unwanted sexual advances,
* Pressure to succeed in a career,
* Not liking who you are,
* Being rejected for reasons other than being fat,
* Being truly unhappy (what is you are thin and look at your new self and are stillunhappy?)
* Embarrassment of not being able to play sports … and more!
What do those extra layers do for you?
At the end of the day, both literally and figuratively (how do you feel at the end of each and every day? and how will you feel at the living end?), holding onto your ‘fat identity’, being paralyzed by fear, is NOT living.
What to do?
Change your lifestyle, as slowly and safely as possible, allowing these small changes to start to move you toward a happy identity!
Spread the word … NOT the icing,
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