“No one is as deaf as the man who will not listen.” ~ Jewish Proverb
Imagine what it would be like if we really listened to each other? You know, instead of half-listening; instead of ‘sort of’ paying attention while multi-tasking, or just plain zoning out, or – most commonly – anxiously awaiting for the ‘listenee’ (a.k.a. speaker) to pause for a millisecond, so that you can jump right in with your brilliance.
Well, for one thing, the person to whom you are listening would enjoy the extraordinary experience of being ‘heard,’ ‘seen,’ and ‘witnessed.’ And YOU, the person who is actively listening, would be exercising your observational powers and, in so doing, you might just perceive more than you normally do. You might understand the ‘listenee’ on a whole new level. You may have even ‘heard’ the golden nuggets of what was left unsaid!
While you are chewing on that, read on
The DO NOT’s of ACTIVE LISTENING!!!
Do NOT allow your brain to race ahead of your lips! We speak at about 100 to 150 words per minute, but we think at 250 to 500. Just listen!
DO NOT anticipate what will be said. Just listen!
DO NOT be distracted by the people or things around you. Keep your eyes focused on the “listenee.” Just listen!
DO NOT interrupt. Allow her/him to finish their thought. Just listen!
DO NOT plan your responses as the speaker is speaking. Just listen!
DO NOT give advice unless specifically asked for it. Just listen!
DO NOT share every single story from your own life that might relate to what the “listenee” is saying. Just listen!
It’s not as easy as it sounds!!!
WHAT does this have to do with Permanent Fat Removal a.k.a. Weight Loss?
Our Lady of Weight Loss works in with a WHOLE LIFE MODEL, which means that weight loss does not live in its little fat-free container … alone. One area of life impacts on the other. Certainly, your ability to build strong relationships with the people in your life can help to support other areas of life. Think about it!
And when you are truly paying attention to another, you are NOT thinking about yourself, or food. Isn’t that a relief?!
Spread the SILENT word … NOT the icing,
Janice Taylor is a Life & Wellness Coach, specializing in weight loss, reinvention, transformation & happiness, author, seminar leader and 50-pound-BIG-Time-LOSER! Write Janice for an Introductory Coaching Session.
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About Our Lady Of Weightloss"Janice Taylor is a 'kooky genius'"
~ O, The Oprah Magazine
Janice Taylor is a Weight Loss Coach and Certified Hypnotist, author, artist and motivational speaker. She is the author of Our Lady of Weight Loss: Miraculous and Motivational Musings from the Patron Saint of Permanent Fat Removal and All Is Forgiven, Move On: Our Lady of Weight Loss's 101 Fat-Burning Steps on Your Journey to Sveltesville (publication date May 15, 2008). Janice is also the creator of the popular e-newsletter Kick in the Tush Club and a 50-pound big-time-loser.
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- Motivational Monday: The Psychology of Body Esteem
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