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Dear Oprah, Why Do YOU Want to Be Fat?

Dear Oprah, I am excited that you are launching your “Best Life” series this week. I have ‘inked’ your various shows and webinars on my calendar and plan to have pen and paper at hand to take notes.
I am going to practice ‘authentic listening’ (a learned skill) and take notes from the perspective of a Life & Wellness Coach. I am going to let you know where I think “Oprah is spot on.” AND where I suspect “Oprah is spot-off.”
I may have missed it, but I’m wondering if you have ever spoken to “Why do YOU Want to Be Fat?” Have you ever looked at what you are putting up with, stomaching, tolerating. Have you fully looked at what is ‘weighing you down?’
Have you fully answered the question: Why Do I WANT to BE FAT!!! With all due respect, I suspect that there is a reason, a pay-off, a comfort that you find in those extra layers.
Here follows something I have written to help some of us bring ‘lite’ to the subject. Feel free to fill in the blank and write me or leave a comment below (that goes for those who are reading this as well!).
Instead of asking yourself the usual, “I want to lose weight because …,” try approaching this from a new perspective.
I want to be fat because ____________________________.
Is it possible that your extra layer of fat protects you in some way?
Is there a part of you that wants to be fat?
Your Unconscious Mind and your Conscious Mind may be at battle. While your Conscious Mind is telling you (more like screaming) that you want to lose weight, get in shape, be fabulous; your Unconscious Mind is ordering you to eat and for good reason.
Why Stay Fat
The primary objective of your Unconscious Mind is to protect you; keep you safe. Therefore, if your Unconscious Mind received any information early on in life that indicates that keeping that extra layer of fat might protect you, or that eating could take away your pain, it will come forth and tell you to eat. Your Unconscious Mind has quite a bit of control over your eating behavior.
You may want to keep your extra layer of fat if you…


  • fear your sexual energy
  • need protection
  • fear being seen (and perhaps judged)
  • don’t like attention
  • have very low self-esteem and feel undeserving
  • feel that success is for those other lucky folk but not you
  • believe that permanent fat removal may require you to make a major life change (i.e., get a divorce, change jobs)
  • fear that you will lose friends

Clearly some of the above to not seemingly applicable to you, Oprah. However, most of us who have a significant amount of excess weight to remove have invested years and years into being stuck in and under our fat.
Fill in the blank …
I want to be fat because ____________________ .
Make a serious commitment to explore your reasons with the intent to allow your Unconscious Mind to let go and move on.
Spread the word … not the ICING!
PS: Oprah, Are you working with anyone who has actually permanently removed a significant amount of weight? There are many out there who preach a good amount of great information, but ‘they’ don’t really get it. Someone once told me, if you want to be rich, don’t ask a poor person how to make money. Same idea applies here, Oprah, if you want to permanently remove the excess, then talk the walk with someone who has actually taken the journey. I permanently removed 50 pounds over 7 years ago. I must know something!
Janice Taylor is a Life & Wellness Coach, author, seminar leader and 50-pound-BIG-Time-LOSER!
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  • Princess Dieter

    For me, it’s all about the easy and the pleasurable. I love food and eating a lot of fatty/tasty/spicy takeout or delivery is easier than being judicious and wise with calories and fat. I am a sloth at heart and a hedonist about food. I’d rather have three or four slices of all-the-way pizza than one, just as i’d rather have, say, 3 orgasms than one or three lipglosses than one. :)
    It’s not about self-protection or any of the other psych stuff. It’s about pleasure and comfort and laziness. Which makes me sad that I’m like that and not just naturally a disciplined, moderate, wise gal in this arena.
    The Princess

  • Neva Smith


  • Ask yourself this…

    I began reading this article because of the clever lure of using Oprah as what appears to be a target. While I am not a big fan of her I have followed her struggles through the years with her weight and I know how difficult it can be. Let’s face it, as tough of a question as you posed; no one really wants to be fat. Yes there are subconscious things that hold us back. But the real issue here should not be can you lose a substantial amount of weight and keep it off, as you have Janice. The real issue should be are we healthy? Health can come in any size package. Granted the odds of one being healthier increase greatly the smaller the waist line, but there are people like myself who are bigger but healthy. I get out everyday and do something, be it going on a hike in the mountains, kayaking on the rivers, walking on the beach, exploring new places, doing yoga, kick boxing, you name it. Just because a person is bigger doesn’t mean they want to be fat. My blood pressure is perfect, my endurance is better than most of my skinny friends. And I know I am not a walking anomaly. This is my choice, to live the healthiest life possible for me. If I could be skinny, I would be. Not because I need to be to be healthy, but because then I would be like everyone else. Our society discriminates against people who are not what they consider to be skinny. I even catch my self doing it when I see people that are bigger stuffing their faces with poor food choices and just sitting around. I get it, I really do. If I was met with half of the challenges they are I might do the same thing. My challenges have been great, greater than most people my age. Perspective saved me and I was blessed to be surrounded by positive people who accept me the way I am. A diet is so much more than asking WHY DO YOU WANT TO BE FAT? A diet is so much more than asking HAVE YOU LOST A SUBSTANTIAL AMOUNT OF WEIGHT AND KEPT IT OFF? A healthy diet is not a diet at all; it’s a change in lifestyle. A change that promotes activity, promotes self acceptance, promotes finding your own ideals instead of societies. Your comments, while they inspire people to think, when read by someone who is already experiencing shame would do no good. To have someone put a statement as rude as that in your face when you are already on a downward spiral will not inspire healthy change. Research shows that diets don’t work because people get to their goals and then don’t maintain the loss because the work is too hard. Health, which is what we should be aspiring for in a diet, not weight, is best brought on by small manageable changes that we can keep up. No one wants to feel like their life is restricted by a diet. Life is meant to be lived not spent sitting on the sidelines watching others have all the fun. But we have to be healthy to do that. So instead of asking yourself, WHY DO YOU WANT TO BE FAT? Shouldn’t we be asking ourselves, AREN’T I WORTH BEING HEALTHY? The answer will always be a resounding YES!

  • Your Name

    This is such a complex issue. Oprah lost weight and kept it off for quite a long time (at least the 7 years that Janice has). As the comment by “The Princess” said, it IS to some extent a matter of discipline. It IS easier to eat a quick, unhealthy carb than to plan and prepare nutritious, healthy food. We can all do it for a short while, but in the long run it gets very tedious to always be planning and preparing. I have yo-yo’d with my weight all my life. I know it all intellectually. I go to a 12-step group and believe there’s a lot of truth in there (one day at a time, surrendering to a higher power), but putting it into practice is extremely difficult. I don’t really know any more what the right questions or answers are. I just know that we can never give up the fight. Giving up means putting on even more excess weight and feeling more despair and hopelessness. I’m grateful to Oprah for going more public since she is someone who has achieved a lot in her life and is very visible, and yet proof that there are no magic cures and that everyone struggles with something. Just accepting struggling as “normal” has given me more peace in my life.

  • Your Name

    I agree that there is so much more to losing weight than diet and exercise. Those of us who are part of the struggle know all to well.
    I know that I still must have some emotional issues, but I really don’t know what they are. I lost almost 40 pounds 7 years ago because of emotional trauma in my life. I’ve kept it off but I still should lose another 20. I quit smoking almost 2 years ago after 30 years and gained back a few that seem determined not to leave!
    I don’t want to be FAT!! So I would love if someone could help me with my emotional block!
    God Bless all of you

  • melody

    why can’t some people just be larger or fat..oprah feels safe at 200lbs..let her be!

  • Your Name

    While not EVERYONE IN THIS WORLD was intended to be thin, what she has to say holds a lot of water. I know I use the weight as a shield and so does a good friend of mine. We talk about it all the time. We use it to protect us from the temptation. When u are not happy at home, temptation can be strong… so u do what you can to minimize that temptation.
    Not that I am an Ophra expert, but she has revealed a lot about an abusive childhood and that, quite often leads to “wanting to be fat”. The mind is a very strong thing and it is hard to fight it some times with what we know we should be doing.

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