On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It

On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It

Give what you need

posted by grose

Usually it’s alpha mare bellowing and kicking alpha gelding. Not last night.

The bellowing turned frantic. Man-Son flew out of bed and ran barefooted to the corral. He yelled to let the horses know he was there.

Situation: a fog had settled. Gelding, fenced off separately, could not see the other two horses. He was anxious initially; then hysterical.

The other horses huddled together, quietly hiding at the far end of their pen. They turned a deaf ear to the gelding.

Horses, herd animals, require the company of other horses. Perhaps one of the functions of animals is to show us ourselves.

We want to make a positive impact on our fellow man. Daniel Pink’s Drive: The surprising truth about what motivates us shares scientific studies revealing that one of our fundamental motivations is purpose—making a difference. We want to know in the end that we made life better for others.

We also need aid from people to develop our potential and find opportunities. Others help us become our best selves.

But what if people are distant and uncaring? Turning a deaf ear?

There’s a way to break through, turn this around: Give what you need.

In need of encouragement? Encourage.

Need guidance, know how? Give gentle instruction to another.

In need of assurance that what you do matters, makes a difference?  Look around you. Who can you assure, give a thoughtful compliment, thank?

 Who can you look in the eye? Give a “thumbs up?”

Give what you need—generously.

 It will come back to you.

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Go deeper

posted by grose

There’s a lot going on. Even country living isn’t simple.

Every day I face:

–Unexpected problems: The gelding and mare are kicking each other again. Through the fence meant to separate them.

–Family responsibilities: Could you feed the dogs this morning?

–Text and voice messages: An old friend wants to stay in touch.

–Invitations: This writing contest pays $300 to the winner.

–Offers: Her next book releases September 30. Buy it now for 30% off.

–Professional upkeep: A contact emails me updated contact info. He is now VP at a competitor. A former coworker asks for my help..

–The examples of amazing people: How does Seth Godin manage to blog every single day?

 But none of this is my life.

A deep-sea diver knows that storm waves crashing his boat are on the surface. He finds calm by diving deeper.

 I must go below the clashing, crashing voices threatening to steer me away to ports not my own.

I quiet my mind and heart. Imagine floating downward to the bottom, to what is fundamental: my work, my message, my cause and my call.

There I find the calm center where I belong. I can see what to do.

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Check yourself–do you really want to be on fire?

posted by grose

In my armed chair at my computer to write. I go inward seeking a flame…smoldering embers… a spark at least. Words to keep your heart and mine burning.

My blog title is On Fire: finding your gift and using it!

[ Sigh ]

Do I really want to be on fire? Do you?

The natural, set point of my heart is…cool.

I seek:

Steady-state

Comfort

Reasonableness

Safety.

On fire sounds:

Out of control

Unreasonable

Unpredictable

Dangerous…difficult.

A choice is before us:

–preserve our possessions—the condo, Lexus SC 430 and Super Air Nautique 230;

–rehearse our accomplishments—the MBA, our daughter’s graduation and our promotion to Director;

–relish familiar pleasures—sushi night at the bar, Netflix, and the once-yearly sale at Nordstrom’s;

or

enter the fray.

Finding your gifts and using them means to ask:

God, who have you made me to be?

Where is the action? Where is the mending, reconstructing, healing going on? Mogadishu? Chiang Mai? Rochester?

My kitchen table?

Are you calling me? To what and where? What have you prepared me to do?

What is the risk, the cost?

Dear reader, are you going forward with me? If so, I must first admonish you to check yourself:

–You may be done with the quest for “the good life.”

–Done being sold a cheap bill of goods. Trivial pursuits. So much less than what you were born for.

–You may yearn to spend yourself on something worthwhile—a cause matching your potential.

–But I’m warning you–you are placing yourself dangerously near the flame.

God’s heart burns with Love for men, women, and children everywhere. Every child soldier, sex slave, suicide bomber, Wall Street analyzer, and tortilla-making grandmother. Every Ukrainian farmer, hookah smoker, smart phone user and Chinese dissenter. Every church goer and non.

When you get close enough to see the gaping distance between what God wills and the reality of what people actually experience, your heart will break.

 God’s Love will sear you…change you…call you out.

You will join the fight.

Then you, too, will flame.

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…for our God is a consuming fire.     (Hebrews 12:29 NIV)

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Uncertain–but not paralyzed (how)

posted by grose

I thought life would get easier. More under control. Finally the time would come when I could freely and happily do what was most important—give back to God by giving my Gift.

But it didn’t happen—the part about life getting easier or more under control. No matter what I do, there are always unexpected events, mishaps, new turns in the road.

Most of all, people—family, bosses, coworkers, friends, etc.—defy predictability.

Being a human on planet earth is…complicated.

Thankfully, wise Guides point the way:

What’s really needed is nothing more than a broad sense of what you are looking for, some strategy for how to find it, and an overriding willingness to embrace mistakes and surprises along the way. Simply put, making art is chancy—it doesn’t mix well with predictability. Uncertainty is the essential inevitable and all-pervasive companion to your desire to make art. And tolerance for uncertainty is the prerequisite to succeeding.

 -Bayles & Orland in Art & fear: Observations on the perils (and rewards) of Artmaking

Many of us want a map, but what we get is a compass.  We are not given a detailed outline of how we should live each day.  We are given a due north, a direction we should move toward. 

 On this journey one thing becomes certain: when you move forward on what you know, things become clearer.  When you refuse to act on what you know, all that you do not know paralyzes you.

-Irwin Raphael McManus in Chasing Daylight: Seize the power of every moment

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I don’t expect ease or predictability anymore.  Perhaps we humans need uncertainty in order to live our story and give the Gift we’re here to give.

What do you think?

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