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On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It

On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It

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A Psychologist, a Dead Chicken, and the Back Door

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I read a book about the impact of childhood memories. The author, a well-known psychologist, wrote that if we recall our three most vivid memories, we’d see who we are. Or, he could describe to us what we’re like…something like […]

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Chaos Gave Me 4 Truths and a Path

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My elderly father succumbed to a stroke. Then bed bugs arrived in the house I just completed decorating. The creepy, blood-sucking insects infested again and again. Thirdly, a new friend turned postal…frightening me with her behavior.My world teetered dangerously out […]

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One Thing to do with your life

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Think about it:  You didn’t ask to be born. You don’t know exactly where you came from or where you’re going—if anywhere—after you die.  Yet, you’re here. Living in this place and time.  For a reason?  You wonder, Who am […]

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An Ex-boyfriend, Two Professors and ~ How To Coach Another Person

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It was the worst time to fall apart. The final semester of my senior year in college was for completing projects and planning my future. Instead, I was depressed. Hardly able to get out of bed. Skipping classes. Doing the […]

Getting Nowhere? ~ A Rescue

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To myself: You’re unproductive. You’re too emotional. Insecure. Scaredy-cat. Just push ahead, stupid! Look at Joe (or Susan). He gets after it every day. Steady outcomes. Can’t you be more like that? Just do it. Your work doesn’t really matter. […]

You and I are a Promise

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Today these words infuse new life into me. I share them with you with the hope they will encourage you too. “In our faithful listening to God’s Word, we often neglect his first word to us–the gift of ourselves to […]

Who Needs You?

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Your gift is an insight wrapped in talent and shared with others. “But who are my others?” you ask. “I’ve tried giving my gift. No one wants it.” Perhaps your gift is mediating conflict. Your insight into human personalities and […]

How to Grow Your Talent

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In old age, I don’t want to review my life and wish I’d done more with the talent given me. I don’t want to wonder what held me back. Should I have found better teachers? Practiced more? Knocked on more […]

Decide to Love Your Life

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Cook up your grandmother’s meatloaf recipe. The dirty laundry molding in the closet? Wash it. Two years ago a couple moved in next door. Go introduce yourself. Join the YMCA and sign up for classes. Scrape the mold off the […]

When My Fire Goes Out

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When I’m on fire, I’m filled with faith, hope and love. Others catch my fire and pass it on. But a few days ago, my fire went out. Several relatives got together—without me. They “had a great time,” according to […]

A horse that loves to run ~ Is this you?

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Steven Pressfield writes about watching a famous trainer work with his thoroughbreds. To Steven’s surprise, the trainer takes great pains to make the training sessions “fun” for the horses. The trainer explained: Horses understand the whip but I don’t want […]

“Follow Your Bliss.” But HOW?

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Let’s be honest. Life is good, bad, fun, terrible, beautiful and painful. Filmmaker Patrick Solomon reports he “struggled with hardship, suffered defeats…and tried to make sense of [his] world.” Seeing life through the lens of Joseph Campbell’s “hero’s journey” strengthened […]

A Dark Place: 3 Steps to Blue Sky Again

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I fill my large Einstein Bagel coffee cup with vanilla hazelnut. The woman next to me mumbles, “I should know never to book anything before 10:00 o’clock on a Monday morning.” She explained she got lost on her way to […]

A Shoe Cobbler and a Prisoner Show How to Live Today

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Henry Linder is a 93-year-old shoe cobbler in a tiny town in the Carolinas. He’s an internet sensation right now, even though he doesn’t own a computer. Erik Olsen’s documentary on Henry just won first place in iReport’s Community Choice […]

Oprah and Brene Brown: “Let the Spirit Flow”

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In a funk, I picked up O Magazine. Inside Oprah interviewed Dr. Brené Brown, Houston sociologist famous for her research on shame and vulnerability. I had viewed her TED talks. Even read Dr. Brown’s latest book, Daring Greatly. I knew […]

What We Are Made For ~ and Not

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As he steered his Lexus 430 SC onto the freeway in early morning traffic, John kicked himself. Why do I feel so…flat? He had finally achieved the stability for which he worked so hard–a good job with a profitable company, […]

Battling Ego. Finding Beauty.

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Every person has been created by God with a Gift to give for the bettering of mankind. This message—along with writing and teaching—is my Gift. This morning, upon waking, I pull my laptop onto the bed and open it to […]

The Shortest Path to Greatness

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Be you. You don’t have another choice. Copying someone else gets the same results as lighting a firecracker that is a “dud:” a very short-lived blaze of glory followed by a fizzling fall to the ground. Next. Developing and using […]

How to Steer Your Life

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Somewhere each day we have to fall in love with someone, something, some moment, event, phrase. Somehow each day we must allow the softening of the heart.  Otherwise our hearts will move inevitably toward hardness. We will move toward cynicism, […]

Blindsided? Hurt? Believe THIS.

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I lost my reasons to live in midlife. My husband walked out. Our teenagers left home. My home and possessions disappeared. Friends slithered away. I was so blindsided by hurt and chaos, I could barely work.  But over time things […]

The Road to Freedom and the PIT on the way

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I know regret. Really well. Open doors I walked through turned out to have ugly surprises—a contentious boss, a backstabbing friend, or a guy who just wanted to use me. A new city I thought was the pot at the […]

Committed to Hope

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I made an illegal U-turn. Shortly thereafter a cop pulled up behind me and turned on his flashing lights. “I saw what I did as I was doing it,” I told him, owning up to my error before he accused […]

Feeling Dismissed or Disrespected? Here’s What to Do.

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Are people ignoring you or being inconsiderate? Treating you like your input doesn’t matter, or you don’t even exist? Stop what you are doing right now and, instead, do your Work. Your Work–with a capital “W”–is the thing you were […]

5 Steps to the New Chapter Awaiting You

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Every creative journey begins with a problem…Before we can find the answer—before we probably even know the question—we must be immersed in disappointment, convinced that a solution is beyond our reach…Before Bob Dylan could reinvent himself, writing the best music […]

Do you HATE who you are? Hear this.

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No two snowflakes are the same.  Every person is special. There will never be another person born exactly like you. You know this. But you wonder about: – Your ADHD making it impossible to sit at attention for very long. […]

The Paradox: For others ~ Not for others

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It’s crazy. Our true personhood and calling flow from desiring to give something of ourselves to help others. However, others are also the #1 squelcher of our personhood and calling. How so? Abusive authority figures teach us to watch our […]

Who Are You? (and why you need to know)

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Do you know who you are?  Grab a pen and write your answers: 1. What do I love? 2.  What do I hate? 3.  What are my key personality traits? 4. What are my top talents? 5. I get the […]

When you’re so D O N E with it

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You’ve tried and tried. Rattled doors. Researched, strategized and planned. Pushed forward. Worked. Hoped and prayed. But nothing seems to get traction. Your dream is going nowhere. You feel empty and alone. Broken-hearted. Here’s what to do: for today (and […]

“But I don’t fit anywhere!” (I hate to tell you this…)

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Perhaps you thought when you grew up you’d inherit your father’s business. Carrying on the family legacy would be your contribution to bettering the world. But it didn’t happen. Maybe you planned to be a wife and mom with a […]

Giving your Gift: What Works ~ what Doesn’t

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When it comes to being real and giving the Gift we’re here to give, there are two tactics that don’t work—and two that do. 1. Shame.  It doesn’t work. Growing up, shame was the tool of choice for adults—parents, teachers, […]

‘Your time is limited, so don’t waste it’

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Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. — Steve Jobs, CEO, Apple Computer …when I get to heaven, God won’t ask me ‘Why weren’t you more like Moses?’ or ‘Why weren’t you more like King […]

The minute I move forward ~ Disaster. What then?

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You’ve heard the quotes. The minute you set your will to pursue your calling or some higher realm endeavor—art, a business venture, guitar lessons—Heaven comes to your aid. Doors mysteriously open. Synchronicity happens. The missing piece you need shows up. […]

The #1 Tool ~ to create something new and cool

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Do you need a: Solution? Product? Book topic? Idea for a painting? Whole new chapter in your life? A guru or mountain retreat may help. However, on an ongoing basis, the #1 tool for creating something new is this: Openness. […]

In a Comfort Zone? Three strategies to get out (read at your own risk)

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The problem with comfort zones is that they are so comfortable. Scientists conducting a now-famous experiment with frogs plopped them into boiling hot water. The frogs immediately leaped out of the pot. However, when they placed the frogs in cool […]

World News: What we can do–now

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The world news hangs over me: “Army suicide rate hits record in July” (USA Today) “Years After Haiti Quake, Safe Housing is a Dream for Many” (The NY Times) “‘Pussy Riot’ sentenced to 2 years in a penal colony in […]

Your Story: the journey of your heart

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This post is a postscript to Finding Your Own Story.  Stories are the only enchantment possible for when we begin to see our suffering as a story, we are saved. -A. Nin diary 1943 I used to think life was […]

A small but critical Turn Around

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I was slightly depressed and didn’t feel like working out at the YMCA. However, I knew I was on a roll with exercise and needed to keep up my routine. I had a goal of losing 10 pounds. Down by […]

Find your story

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Growing up I had a minor role in my parents’ story: Move from the farm into town and work day and night plus pinch every penny to save enough money to buy a house. Later I teamed up with my […]

Cartoon, Facebook and “How are you spending your life?”

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Dan Piraro’s cartoon (left), ironically, is making the rounds on Facebook.com. When I saw it, I chuckled and promptly posted it to my own home page. The cartoon pokes fun at us. It also asks us to reflect on how […]

Live your own life: 7 steps

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The more we get what we now call ‘ourselves’ out of the way and let Him take us over, the more truly ourselves we become. The alternative is the real disaster. The more I resist Him and try to live […]

From CYA and Being Nice—to Truth

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Things could get ugly—even violent—growing up. My very-afraid-and-too-stressed-out-post-Great-Depression parents might yell or hit one of their six kids who neglected their chores or talked back like a “smart alec.” The result? I learned CYA. Watched my back—always. Pleased my adult […]

The Art of Beginning Again

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Today—after a halfway-across-the-country move—I pick up my pen (otherwise known as my computer keyboard) and begin again. I’ve always wanted to write. Get good. Write important stuff. Become a writer people want to read. But I’ve done other work most […]

What TRANSITION teaches us

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A life journey does not unfold in a straight line; the route is often circuitous and sometimes requires an abrupt stop in order to discern the next steps. -Debbie Kirk Wide Open Spaces: Women exploring call through stories and reflections […]

Find your Gift and use it. WHY.

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Your Gift is an insight wrapped in talent and shared with others. Why find and use it? Four reasons: 1) To start down this Gift-giving path is to turn toward God and the truth you’ve been created and for a […]

Give what you need

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Usually it’s alpha mare bellowing and kicking alpha gelding. Not last night. The bellowing turned frantic. Man-Son flew out of bed and ran barefooted to the corral. He yelled to let the horses know he was there. Situation: a fog […]

Go deeper

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There’s a lot going on. Even country living isn’t simple. Every day I face: –Unexpected problems: The gelding and mare are kicking each other again. Through the fence meant to separate them. –Family responsibilities: Could you feed the dogs this […]

Check yourself–do you really want to be on fire?

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In my armed chair at my computer to write. I go inward seeking a flame…smoldering embers… a spark at least. Words to keep your heart and mine burning. My blog title is On Fire: finding your gift and using it! […]

Uncertain–but not paralyzed (how)

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I thought life would get easier. More under control. Finally the time would come when I could freely and happily do what was most important—give back to God by giving my Gift. But it didn’t happen—the part about life getting […]

Dream or Die

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Have you stopped dreaming? You no longer: –Draw amazing possibilities in your imagination? –Invent solutions? –Craft new ways to communicate your idea? –Scheme work-arounds? –Imagine what your key relationships could be if you went back at it? –Wish for the […]

How to get off the sidelines and into the A-C-T-I-O-N

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Sidelined. Thoughts swirl: I’m getting nowhere I’ve got too many strikes against me You have to have money to make money There are so many people who do this and better than me. Why try? I’m not included, not part […]

What if Tabby hadn’t pulled CARRIE out of the trash? (Stephen King)

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I couldn’t see wasting two weeks…creating a novella I didn’t like and wouldn’t be able to sell. So I threw it away.            The next night, when I came home from school, Tabby had the pages. She’d spied them while emptying […]

Your Gift: the daily battle

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I have a Gift. So do you. My Gift could be described in a number of ways, but at its most basic level, it has to do with uncovering the uniqueness in people and helping them see it for themselves. […]

5 Steps for writing a life purpose statement

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In my previous post, Your purpose–write it down, see it happen, I described a life purpose statement this way: … a purpose statement simply captures an overriding theme already present in your life. It puts down in words the true […]

Your purpose–write it down, see it happen

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Do you feel called to something? Have a cause you are passionate about? Know your life purpose?  If so, have you written it down? Dr. Henriette Anne Klauser says writing down your dream or goal is the first step to […]

9 Questions for uncovering your Gift

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I define your Gift as: An insight wrapped in talent and shared with others.(More about your Gift here.) So, it’s not just what you’re good at. It’s what you’re good at applied to what you care about. The combination is […]

Got a dream? You also need a DARE.

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Monday morning. The first day of the week brings fresh hopes and dreams. I imagine better, clearer ways to be true, to give the Gift entrusted to me. But there’s always something. I live on a mini-ranch. Letting the horses […]

The word that ‘kills’ your dream & the one that lets it loose

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There is a word that – keeps you down, – deepens your fears, – squelches your dreams and – hands you off to addictions and distractions—television, video games, shopping, wine, porn—ensuring you waste your life. The word is this: H […]

Out of ideas? In a black hole? Think F-L-O-W

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It is morning. A new day, a fresh start. But the thoughts swirling in my mind are grey: I’m stuck. My new ideas are all used up. I’m a failure. How does he/she do it? How does he keep coming […]

Sick–overweight–depressed? Have you checked your calling?

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The news isn’t good: One in four Americans are obese (some stats say one in three). One in ten US adults are suffering from depression. 9% are diabetic and our overall standard of health is on the decline. We are […]

Excuses, excuses–Grandma’s got a book on Amazon!

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My mother’s paperback fiction book is for sale on Amazon.com. Consider this: she was 85-years-old when she published it, this was her first book, and she doesn’t use the Internet! We live in a very special world. Susan Boyle, an […]

The question that led me to my calling

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In the middle of life everything crashed—my husband walked out, our teenagers left home, I lost my house, friends slithered away and my career suffered from my lack of being able to show up for it. I felt lost. In […]

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A Psychologist, a Dead Chicken, and the Back Door
I read a book about the impact of childhood memories. The author, a well-known psychologist, wrote that if we recall our three most vivid memories, we’d see who we are. Or, he could describe to us what we’re like…something like that. I’ve given it a lot of thought. For me, traveling ba

posted 6:21:14pm Jul. 10, 2013 | read full post »

Chaos Gave Me 4 Truths and a Path
My elderly father succumbed to a stroke. Then bed bugs arrived in the house I just completed decorating. The creepy, blood-sucking insects infested again and again. Thirdly, a new friend turned postal…frightening me with her behavior.My world teetered dangerously out of control. In the midst of

posted 3:14:25pm Jul. 05, 2013 | read full post »

One Thing to do with your life
Think about it:  You didn’t ask to be born. You don’t know exactly where you came from or where you’re going—if anywhere—after you die.  Yet, you’re here. Living in this place and time.  For a

posted 9:30:11am Jul. 02, 2013 | read full post »

An Ex-boyfriend, Two Professors and ~ How To Coach Another Person
It was the worst time to fall apart. The final semester of my senior year in college was for completing projects and planning my future. Instead, I was depressed. Hardly able to get out of bed. Skipping classes. Doing the bare minimum, if that. The reason was my boyfriend—EX-boyfriend. Our b

posted 2:30:52pm Jun. 20, 2013 | read full post »

Getting Nowhere? ~ A Rescue
To myself: You’re unproductive. You’re too emotional. Insecure. Scaredy-cat. Just push ahead, stupid! Look at Joe (or Susan). He gets after it every day. Steady outcomes. Can’t you be more like th

posted 4:18:13pm Jun. 18, 2013 | read full post »

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