On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It

On Fire: Finding Your Gift And Using It

What TRANSITION teaches us

A life journey does not unfold in a straight line; the route is often circuitous and sometimes requires an abrupt stop in order to discern the next steps.

-Debbie Kirk

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The job ends.

The lover leaves.

The committee votes no.

The last child leaves home.

The medical test comes back positive.

The path we thought we were on ends. In his classic, Transitions: making sense of life’s changes, William Bridges says transition has 3 stages:


1) Endings,

2) The Neutral Zone and

3) New beginnings.

It’s the Neutral Zone that is so torturous. We are






and want to get out of this zone as soon as possible!

According to Bridges, however, we need to “get into” this zone in order to discover New Beginnings truly authentic for us. One of his wise instructions is to use this time to find out what we really want.

So hard!  When the past has ended and we can’t envision the future, we are tempted to seek only the quickest and best imitation of the past we can find.

But transition has something to teach us–about ourselves. Consider this:


What we truly desire coincides with what God desires for us and what He has given us the potential to become.

 God waits, ready to enable our becoming.

What do you want?

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Carole Marshall

posted July 7, 2012 at 5:28 pm

I have a love/hate relationship with life’s “neutral zones.” They are mighty painful and worldly powerful. I find I do my best writing work once I lick my wounds,resolve my thoughts,and move ahead. I try hard to have my work add to the life and health of the community and I know I must reside in the occasional “neutral zone” to make that happen.

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posted July 6, 2012 at 2:50 pm

This is good and true. I want out of this place this neutral zone. It makes me think of an all tan house and I just want to splash some orange paint all over the place…..its dull frustrating confusing and I want out of here there appears to be no rhyme or reason to being here…just here’s life coming at ya….catch! Not feeling so optimistic right now.

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