One City

One City


Larry Johnson Suspended for Twitter Slurs

posted by Jerry Kolber

chiefs-larry-johnson-slursjpg-02a09f7cb483b11d_large.jpgby Jerry Kolber

This week finds Kansas City Chiefs running back Larry Johnson suspended for anti-gay Twitter slurs against a coach.

Of course, he is free to say whatever he wants to whoever he wants. Twitter may find that he has violated terms of service, and he will be suspended from the team for some period of time.


What’s interesting to me about this is that it makes me think of all
the slurs I make all the time.  Not verbally – usually – but in my head
I make anit-fill-in-the-blank slurs all the time. Against something I’m
supposed to be involved in (this is boring, this is stupid, I can’t
stand this), against people (they are annoying me, what is wrong with
them, I can’t stand them), and against myself (what’s wrong with me,
I’m not good enough, I have to change).

So today is, for me,
Non-Violence Wednesday. This means that I will try to notice all the
self-and-other slurs I make in my head and try to go for at least five
minutes without simmering in judgment against myself or anyone/anything
else.  This isn’t about “not judging” because judging is just another
thought that arises. It’s simply about not attaching to the warm
blanket of superiority or insecurity and trying to do so for at least
five minutes today.

So far, I’ve managed to go two minutes. 
Generally about ten minutes go by and then I’m like “oh crap, I just
wandered off into judgment fantasies for the last three minutes”. 

This
is me trying to take something off the cushion into real life.  And so
far today, on set here in Bristol CT, it’s been a lot harder than
expected, even though I’m surrounded by a team of supportive people
making a television show I’m proud of.

I can’t point a finger at
Larry Johnson and say “bad man” because I’m no better at avoiding
“slurs” – I just don’t say them out loud, usually.  I look at his
situation as an opportunity for me to take a look at my own thoughts
and slurs and see if I can make an incremental improvement in how I
practice compassion.

Anyone else want to give
Non-Violence Wednesday a try and see if you can go five minutes
noticing and detaching from violent thoughts against yourself and
others?


Advertisement
Comments read comments(4)
post a comment
Pete Dignan

posted October 28, 2009 at 12:34 pm


Good idea Jerry. Hard to do, but worthwhile to try.



report abuse
 

Iris

posted October 28, 2009 at 5:30 pm


Yes, but the best I can do for now is acknowledge when I do it and open my heart to myself for doing it.



report abuse
 

Claudia

posted October 29, 2009 at 11:02 am


Oh, I just read this! So I’m going to try for a Non-Violence Thursday instead.



report abuse
 

Your Name

posted November 2, 2009 at 4:43 am


excellent.
I agree. Judging others tends to make us forget our own weaknesses and limitations.
While prejudice against gay folks is, indeed sad (and often dangerous), forgiving others goes a long way to bridging the gap that causes the prejudice in the first place.
I recall an incident listening to someone give a racist diatribe. I had just spent the afternoon with a friend who is a social worker. Instead of responding to this person with verbiage, I just stopped and listened. I did not let my ego come forward into debate. And then something interesting happened. The person started to reveal that he had been mugged a number of times…and his racism started to look more like fear. And then I felt compassionate towards him. And that bridged a gap. Didn’t immediately change everything, but it created a seed of unity. And that, I think, actually solves underlying rifts.



report abuse
 

Post a Comment

By submitting these comments, I agree to the beliefnet.com terms of service, rules of conduct and privacy policy (the "agreements"). I understand and agree that any content I post is licensed to beliefnet.com and may be used by beliefnet.com in accordance with the agreements.



Previous Posts

More blogs to enjoy!!!
Thank you for visiting One City. This blog is no longer being updated. Please enjoy the archives. Here are some other blogs you may also enjoy: Most Recent Buddhist Story By Beliefnet Most Recent Inspiration blog post Happy Reading!

posted 2:29:05pm Aug. 27, 2012 | read full post »

Mixing technology and practice
There were many more good sessions at the Wisdom 2.0 conference this weekend. The intention of the organizers is to post videos. I'll let you know when. Here are some of my notes from a second panel. How do we use modern, social media technologies — such as this blog — to both further o

posted 3:54:40pm May. 02, 2010 | read full post »

Wisdom 2.0
If a zen master were sitting next to the chief technical officer of Twitter, what would they talk about? That sounds like a hypothetical overheared at a bar in San Francisco. But this weekend I saw the very thing at Soren Gordhamer's Wisdom 2.0 conference — named after his book of the same nam

posted 1:43:19pm May. 01, 2010 | read full post »

The Buddha at Work - "All we are is dust in the wind, dude."
"The only true wisdom consists of knowing that you know nothing." - Alex Winter, as Bill S. Preston, Esq. in Bill and Ted's Excellent Adventure"That's us, dude!" - Keanu Reeves, as Ted "Theodore" LoganWhoa! Excellent! I've had impermanence on my mind recently. I've talked about it her

posted 2:20:00pm Jan. 28, 2010 | read full post »

Sometimes You Find Enlightenment by Punching People in the Face
This week I'm curating a guest post from Jonathan Mead, a friend who inspires by living life on his own terms and sharing what he can with others.  To quote from Jonathan's own site, Illuminated Mind: "The reason for everything: To create a revolution based on authentic action. A social movemen

posted 12:32:23pm Jan. 27, 2010 | read full post »




Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.