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Washington Post: Evangelical leaders adding sex to their sermons

Rick Warren, Tim Keller and a number of other prominent Christian leaders are promoting the joys of married sex from the pulpit, reports the Washington Post‘s Lisa Miller.

Rick Warren in the pulpit

“Last week,” writes Miller. “Rick Warren sent this message to the nearly 500,000 people who follow him on Twitter: “Husbands & wives should satisfy each other’s sexual needs. 1 Cor 7:3” — quoting the Apostle Paul’s advice to the early church in Corinth, Greece, as recorded in 1 Corinthians 7:3.


“Evangelical Christians want to talk about sex,” reports Miller. “And not in the same old punitive way. They want to talk about hot sex — as long as it’s between a man and a woman who are husband and wife. That Warren, perhaps the nation’s most prominent evangelical pastor, would take up the cause only shows how much it matters to the people who listen to him.”

Tim Keller is offering such advice as: “Each partner in a marriage is to be most concerned not with getting sexual pleasure but with giving it,” writes Miller. “The greatest sexual pleasure should be the pleasure of seeing your spouse getting pleasure.”

Miller continues:

This sexual revolution is the inevitable result of a younger Christian generation rejecting outright the prudish “don’t do it because I said so” approach to sex and social morality of their grandfathers. According to a recent article in Christian magazine Relevant, 80 percent of self-identified Christians have sex before marriage, compared with 88 percent of the general population.


According to UnChristian, a 2008 book by David Kinnaman and Gabe Lyons, 44 percent of born-again Christians ages 23 to 41 believe sex outside marriage is morally acceptable, compared with 23 percent of those who are older. Divorce rates among evangelicals are the same as those in the population at large.

With their clinical frankness, writes Miller in the Post‘s On Faith section, “these leaders are giving real sex to Christians the way The Joy of Sex gave it to the masses back in 1972.”

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment funmi ajayi

    it’s not something good to hv sex b4 marriage. cause the holy bible make us to understand that our body is the temple of the living God, we should not defile the temple of God. mostly now in this jet age of HIV/AIDS. THANKS

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment val

    The joy of sex in marriage should be taught. Sex after all was design for marriage I think more ministers should preach about martial sex. My 12 year daughter told me last night, she will wear a white wedding dress because she plans to remain pure. As a parent I am happy she believes.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Edith

    Enjoying sex with your mate is a great pleasure, but I think there are many Christian principles that are more important to be stressing. So many are lost to the Kingdom of God and hell is in their future. Our emphasis needs to be on the salvation of all who will hear the gospel.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment CJP

    Jesus did not call us together on Sundays to talk about ourselves, what we want…It’s about winning the lost that are heading to Hell… The marriage bed belongs only in the bedroom between a man and his wife, not in the open pulpit. I feel satan is having a field day getting Christiasns to think they need this talk from the pulpit in order to save their troubled marriages, not so..they good old fashioned time on their knees together in their bedroom asking for God’s help in their marriage. I am offended when sex is mentioned from the pulpit, it causes minds to wonder and gets your mind off of why we are here in the first place. To win the lost, not to pleased first. It angers me to hear that preachers are leaving Gods word to discuss sex in the pulpit, yes there were problems in that area in the bible, but it shouldn’t be turned around to us being pleased.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment maryb

    i agree w/edith 100%! more God, Jesus, and salvation.

    thinking there will be a sex scandal for rick warren in the near future!

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Joe Carrizales

    With all that is transpiring in our world. Why should sex in a marriage be an issue? Who cares what Evangelical Leaders are saying, I want to know what God is saying. We are more concern with what makes us feel good rather than seeking God with all our hearts. This is why we are failing in so many areas,because Christ is not the center of our life’s.

  • http://harley1848 Barbara Bixby

    We as christ followers are told to be careful of what we hear and watch because their are sheep in wolves clothing that will quote the word of God, twist and distort the word and we will believe and lead astray. Open the Bible and read what the word says not take what man says. DISCERN the truth and not the lies of the enimie

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Pastor Glen Aycock

    Now is the time to remind our congregations that sex in marriage is a privilege and a blessing. This attitude will give our children a message that marriage is designed to enhance happiness. There is honor in marriage if we do it God’s way. Extra maritual sex is a dead end road that leads to devastion and moral decay.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Paul

    I agree whole hardly with these pastors of the faith. Wasn’t it God who pointed out “:it is not good that man should be alone. Let us make a helpmate.And to continue to parapharse Let them reproduce after their kind. To reproduce ,in the establish way, sex is involved. Being everything God create was good the process of sex is understood to have been created to be a pleasurable process. As in all things the act and or the process should not control you. You must control it. You are to worship God with all your heart,mind,and soul.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Samuel

    talking about sex in marriage has biblical basis. We need to catch the bull by the horn and stop playing the ostrich syndrome. many a christian marriages are suffering and facing eminent collapse due to lack of authentic sexual life as prescribed by Paul. Rick Warren and the other Evangelicals must be commended for that courage. I think by so doing, we can openly condemn gay and lesbian concerns in accordance with scriptures.

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment pagansister

    Expect that they are not approving of same gender MARRIED sex, however as some think that is really, really “sinfu;”. (to some anyhow).

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment pagansister

    correction: sinful.

  • patricia

    These people who call themselves Christians have become so obsessed with sex, that they are trying to make it look normal. If a partner is not comfortable with certain kinds of sex, then they should not be forced to do those things they do not wish to do. I wonder what the age group of these members in these congregations? Are the parents comfortable with their underage kids listening to these “Sermons?”

  • http://AddaURLtothiscomment Judy

    Sex for Christians should be enjoyable – read the Song of Solomon. However, always within the context of marriage. Studies show an alarming increase of young Christians having premarital sex and that needs to be addressed. Many newcomers to a church don’t have the Bible’s viewpoint, so it’s appropriate to have this issued dealt with from the pulpit. Remember, part of our spiritual development involves moral cleanness.

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