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Daddy’s Song

Starting at their births, my husband sang to our children every.single.night. He had a special song for each child….

For Josiah: “Baby, baby, baby child…baby child my own…close those big, blue eyes of yours and sleep for just awhile.”

For Anya: “You are my sunshine, my only sunshine. You make me happy when skies are gray. You’ll never know, Anya, how much I love you. Please don’t take my sunshine away.”

For Lydia: (to the tune of “Oh, what a beautiful morning” from “Oklahoma!”): “Oh, what a beautiful baby. Oh, what a happy girl. I’ve got a wonderful feeling…you’ll be your Daddy’s sweet girl.”


I’ll be honest…sometimes I was irritated. I had songs for the girls, too–and there were times I rushed through them–just wishing they would go to bed already! And Josiah is 12…and his daddy was still singing “Baby Child” to him? And it was a lot of nighttime hoopla and we had busy lives.

BUT…..these songs are the connection we now need that my husband, their father, has left this earth. I sing my songs to them each night…and then I sing Joe’s songs to them. And then I say, “your Mommy AND your Daddy love you” and it is the most special thing.

Joe has taught me…yet another important lesson: it’s the DAILY…it’s the ROUTINE…it’s the HABITS….that show the love and linger on even after. Those songs are such a part of our lives that we have a memory ETCHED in our hearts and minds and we can GRAB it when we need it.

Lydia sang her song about a million times yesterday…to her cat. And she told him how much her daddy loved him even from heaven. What a gift Joe gave to these children.

What routine…habit…can you give your children? Choose well. It matters.

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Beth M. Miller

posted November 24, 2011 at 2:12 am

First of all, the picture of you guys makes me ache with a mixture of joy and sorrow. It’s the best family picture I’ve seen in a long time.

I was also remembering today something I heard from my friend Linda. After she lost her husband Jason, she was looking through some parenting books for information on how to help her 7 year old daughter with the loss. One of them said that it was more important to the development of a child that s/he be confident in a parent’s love, than that the parent actually be present. It’s an interesting thought. I see the picture of Joe looking at Anya with all the love in the world and I know beyond a doubt that your kids are all confident in his great, daddy love. What an immeasurable gift.

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    posted November 24, 2011 at 8:34 am

    MAN, I love this! Thank you, Beth. I so hope that parenting book is right.

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your friend from the north

posted November 22, 2011 at 9:58 am

After you broke the news to us, I went back to bed and held both Jaybo and George. I thought of you and the kids and my heart wept. But you are so right that Joe left the kids with wonderful memories. That morning I wondered what would I do without Jaybo, and after reading this, I realized that George would have wonderful memories of his dad and would pass them to Petey. My favorite memory of Joe is one you showed me one time…it was of Joe reading Charlotte’s Web to the kids, using the Templeton voice 😀 It was such a special moment…and one that seemed so unlike the Joe I knew from High School…but its then that I realized that he and Jaybo had grown after high school and were (and at that point for Jaybo would be) wonderful fathers…and that you and I were 2 of the luckiest girls in the world to have found them. Know that we love you and George prays for you every night.

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