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Happy Birthday to Me!

posted by kjackson

Tomorrow is my birthday!  I have a lovely day planned.  I’ve cleared my calendar of all responsibilities, I’ve rented three movies, and I’m stocked up on junk food. I’ve told the kids I’d really like candy for this year’s gift, thank you….and maybe they could clean their rooms, too? They are equipped with a cake mix and they know how to use it. My husband built a fabulous pig pen for Lola just as I requested and Lola has agreed to be a super-cute pig present tomorrow.

I’m already happy and the birthday hasn’t even started yet!

Since this is a milestone birthday, my two sisters and I are planning our milestone birthday trip like we do any year one of us has a zero at the end of her age. I have dreamed of going to New York City, eating a bagel, and seeing a Broadway show,  since I was a little girl, so I asked the sisters for approval and then got busy researching tickets, transportation and hotels.

Wow! Happy Birthday to me!

It’s quite a contrast from my last milestone birthday. Back then I thought it was impolite or selfish to ask myself the question my Mom asked me every year of my childhood: “Kirsten, what do you want to do for your birthday?” Instead I acted like an adult and asked myself, “I wonder what everyone else will do for me this year?” That question lead me in some dangerous, treacherous territory! Sometime between now and then, however, I learned an important lesson: no one is responsible for my happiness except for me. If I want a special day, I need to make a special day. One year I threw myself a party! It was the best party *ever* with the kind of guests, cake, decor, and games I love :). (Everyone else seemed to have a good time, too!)

Please know I have a wonderful “tribe”; my husband,  friends and family go out of their way to wish me a happy day, give cards and gifts, etc. I’m thankful for them. The good wishes, dinners out, and gifts, though, are simply icing on my birthday cake.  I don’t depend on everyone else to make my day happy because that’s too much responsibility for anyone.

Happiness comes from the inside…and a little planning helps it along!

So…tell me…how are you going to celebrate *your* birthday this year?



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Lisa Watson

posted August 13, 2011 at 4:38 pm


Hmmm, i don’t know for sure yet. But i’m taking this as permission to make it FUN! The past few years my birthday really hasn’t been all that great. In fact it’s been bad. On my 24th birthday i had a 2 week old baby and my husband went back to work and left me alone with 3 kids (3 yrs old, 17 months and 2 weeks) for the very first time. It was awful! We all cried all day long and in between sobs i did laundry. Last year i decided that i wasn’t going to tell my children that it was my birthday. I realized that in the previous years things went down hill as soon as i said, “Guess what kids! It’s mommy’s birthday!” Last year was much better because no one knew it was my birthday except me! Now to get planning…i have 1 week and 5 days until i’ll be 26…



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    kjackson

    posted August 15, 2011 at 10:28 am


    Lisa, since it only happens once a year, go all out! Maybe this year it would be okay to get a babysitter for a few hours and do something you enjoy? For me that would be mean go sit in a dark theater by myself ;)…but for you it may mean going to lunch with a friend or getting a manicure. It’s all about taking responsibility for your own self. I know too many angry bitter older people who did not give themselves permission to enjoy their lives when they were young. Don’t do that to yourself or the people around you. Be good to you!



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Harlan

posted July 31, 2011 at 10:09 am


Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, Happy, BIRTHDAY TO YOU!



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