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Start Shining!

This morning I was driving into the morning sun and I pulled down the visor mirror to take a look at my tired eyes. And they were indeed tired. The wrinkles were more pronounced than usual and the sun was hitting my face in such a way that I could really see them. And I got a bit emotional.

I can hear you now. You’re thinking, “Oh, great. Another one of those blogs where a 39 year old bemoans the fact that she’s no longer in her 20’s and goes on and on about her face and her body and her hair…”


No worries; you’re wrong. :)  I got a bit emotional because I saw the white skin, the freckles, the hazel eyes–and I saw my sister Willa’s features.  I love Willa…and her freckles…and her hazel eyes…and, yes, her wrinkles, and– in that love–I find love for myself.

My Mom was38 years old when I was born and my older sisters were teenagers.  When I was eight two of my sisters started having babies and I became acquainted with such things as stretch marks.  As a teenager I would play double solitaire with my Mom and I was fascinated with my Mom’s beautiful hands with pronounced veins and small wrinkles.  When I was in my early 30’s my sister Starla’s hair turned from blond to a beautiful silver and she grew it to her shoulders and let it become a focal point.


Now when I look at Willa’s smile lines or Mom’s hand veins or Starla’s  silver hair,  I simply see those things as part of them. And I love these women.  I see the beauty that shines through them. I think being the “young ‘un” in this family has been healthy for me because it’s helped me to see that no one really cares if I have a few extra wrinkles…or pounds…or gray hairs. If I am shining–full of love and joy–people see the light in me and they aren’t concerned with the bodily package.

I push the mirror visor up where it belongs, turn from it to the people in my life, and start SHINING!

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posted April 26, 2011 at 9:26 am

We are at the same age, but our lives are so different.I am with my only son.I have been dreaming to have a farm with many animals.So now you know how lucky you are! You live in another lady’s dream.Say Hello to my dear teachers—–you dad and mom! I miss them so much!
Aimee (in China)

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    posted April 26, 2011 at 10:12 am

    Hello, Aimee! I will pass on your “hello” to Mom and Dad. I really love this comment. I remember when other people were living my dream, too. I had a little ritual…when I saw someone living in the country with all sorts of animals, I would thank God for what they had and then requested it for myself, too! Their farms gave me a visual of what I was believing to receive. I hope you one day live this dream..because it really is wonderful! :) Meanwhile, how about you and your son come to visit us? I live three miles form Mom and Dad!

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posted April 24, 2011 at 2:14 am

I love this!

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    posted April 24, 2011 at 10:29 pm

    I know you have some warm feelings about Willa’s hazel eyes, too!

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posted April 23, 2011 at 9:00 pm

Hello, Daphne! Hearing you loud and clear about the gray hair! Let’s just embrace it! Thank you for the herb suggestions…I’m going to try it!

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Daphne Steinberg

posted April 23, 2011 at 7:13 pm

Cheers Kirsten!
First off, my apologies for misspelling your name in my comment on your gardening post. Chalk it up to too much time in the sun… LOL!
I’m sure you can imagine the “permutations” of Daphne that I see…
With regard to this post, I invite you to check out my humorous take on having lots of grey hair, which I love…
p.s. About gardening, do you know what “zone” you are in? For herbs, I suggest you try rosemary, sage and oregano. They are all pretty hardy plants. Careful with the oregano, though. It spreads like a weed. Probably best to put it in a pot. Likewise with mint and lemon balm, which are very nice to have.

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