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Middle School Confidential: Be Confident in Who You Are

posted by Nell Minow

Most adults still shiver a little when the subject of middle school comes up. It is a time of the most polarizing extremes as we first begin to question everything we have been told and everything we thought we knew on our path toward becoming our true and individual selves. This new book is a welcome guide for kids from ages 11-14 by Annie Fox, an online adviser at The Insite.

I like the way she makes it clear up front that there is no one way to be and no one right answer by focusing not on one generic kid or on a lot of generalized rules but creating six different characters to illustrate different situations and responses. Since middle school is a time of a lot of internal and peer-imposed stress about conformity, she begins by talking about teasing and bullies and gets to an important question right away: “If nobody teased you, would you totally accept yourself the way you are?” This lets kids know right away that they need to think about the extent to which their anxieties are based on what goes on inside their own heads and not in what someone else said about them.

The book has comments from real-life kids about their problems and how they deal with them and helpful suggested scenarios and resources. It covers dealing with self-esteem and anger problems, empathy, kindness, and problem-solving. Today’s middle schoolers will probably still shiver decades from now when they remember their tween years, but this book will help them get through a little more smoothly.

I have one copy to give away. The first person to send me an email at moviemom@moviemom.com with “middle school” in the subject line will get the book!



  • jestrfyl

    I have long been convinced that, despite of the posturing and posing of denominational leaders of every party, pale and complexion, the most powerful people in any church are the middle schoolers. I know this because everyone is afraid to teach their Sunday School class – it is often the hardest to recruit for. And we all know that which we fear has the greatest power over us.
    Anyone who does work with Middle Schoolers with any success is usually fearless, creative, and not restricted in their thinking or capacity for empathy. I will be sure to look for this resource. Thanks for the tip!

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