Mindfulness Matters

Mindfulness Matters


Wisdom Wednesday :: “Am I OK now? How ’bout now? And now?”

posted by Dr. Arnie Kozak

Perhaps my mind is singular in its craziness, but my experience with others tells me that I’m not alone. Our minds are constantly asking the question: “Am I OK?” To answer this question, there must be an “I” that is relationship to events, circumstances, people and so forth.

“Am I warm enough?” “Do I have enough to eat?” “Does everyone think I’m cool?” “Am I missing out on anything?”

These questions reinforce a duality and also freezes us in time. Such questions take a snapshot of experience and usually a hasty one at that. This snapshot may be taken at a funny angle or taken in such a way that some things are obstructed from our view. Or the picture may zoom in on one aspect of our life in that moment giving it more emphasis than it deserves.

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Of course, a danger in asking the question is that the answer may not be good. We may conclude, “I am NOT OK” and further conclude, “This is awful.” Distress, anguish, and suffering may ensue.
What if we didn’t ask this question, or didn’t ask it so frequently. What if we asked once per month rather than once per second? Chances are that we’d manage our lives just as well and have much less distress to contend with. 
The question, itself, is a leading one. What if instead, we could assume, “I am OK” and then when we looked our circumstances we could do so in a more objective fashion. There may be difficulties or problems to fix in the moment, but we are not the problem.

Mindfulness meditation trains us to be aware of how often we are asking these questions and gives us the option of disengaging from them and returning our attention to this moment, a moment that is free of questions and holds the potential for joy (even when we are working to solve a problem.



  • http://www.givingnoticenow.com BuddhaPublicist

    Hi Dr. Kosak,
    Thank you for this post. It was honest and helpful. And well-said.
    Jennifer

  • Harold

    I need to absorb the meaning of this message, it is very timely and helpful to me.

  • kim

    Thanks for this post :)….Enlightening!

  • http://thegoodjournal.blogspot.com/ Jennifer

    Not until I read this post did I realize I do this all the time. Circular thinking is never a good idea. Thanks for posting this!

  • Gary

    Beautifully put.
    I really could relate to the analogy of the snapshots we take that “may be taken at a funny angle” or “taken in such a way that some things are obstructed from our view”. Especially the one where we zoom in on one aspect of our lives giving it MUCH more emphasis it deserves.
    I will reflect on this, watching the sun rise.
    Thanks,
    Gary

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