Life As A Conscious Mom

Life As A Conscious Mom


Encourage Children To Be Full Of Themselves

Yesterday Caidin said, ‘I don’t want to be full of myself, but…’ I was surprised. One because I’ve been talking to students about this very thing (nowhere in ear shot of my little psychic child) and two because, I really believe we should be full of ourselves.

If we aren’t full of ourselves, we are full of things that don’t serve us and make us less then who we truly can be. We are full of doubts, self-criticism, invalidation, uncertainty, and wounding. I think we should be full of ourselves. We should take every opportunity we have to embrace and celebrate who we are, what we contribute and what we are passionate about and be full of ourselves.

We should help our children define their own sense of self and support them in living life fully and passionately and we should help them be full of themselves.

But instead we worry that our child will be seen as obnoxious or self-centered or braggadocios. Those worries come from what we were taught. We were taught that if we embrace who we are, we are lacking in humility and that’s bad. And so goes the cycle of one of life’s most diminishing lessons, don’t be proud of who you are, don’t talk about your successes, don’t celebrate your life.

I say teach our children to really love who they are and teach them to validate themselves. When we know who we are and we love who we are, truly and completely, and we know that true validation; that knowingness that we O.K., that we are good and whole and wonderful; comes from within then we run no risk of being obnoxious.

Self-validation is really the key here. When your child does something great or important, or hits a milestone, celebrate and acknowledge that moment, but also use these moments as opportunities to teach your child to self-validate. Just this weekend we had a great example of this. Caidin has been trying to learn to ride his bike. In Brooklyn it was difficult to have a bike, for many reasons – space, storage, crowded sidewalks, so it wasn’t until we moved 2 years ago that he got his first real bike. He had the balancing and steering down, but he couldn’t get the getting going. If I didn’t hold him and give him a push, he couldn’t do it. So he’s been practicing, without me and with no shortage of bruised shins and scrapped knees, he finally got it this weekend. He came running into the house to tell me and when he did, I said ‘Oh, that’s so great, congratulations! How do you feel?’ He said ‘I feel great!’ So I celebrated the moment with him, but the validation came from him.

Teaching a child to self-validate means helping them to see that they don’t need you or anyone but themselves to tell them that what they did was good or of value. Again, it doesn’t mean that you don’t celebrate moments with your child, but help them to see that what really matters, what’s really important is how they feel about their successes.

And then encourage them to be full of themselves.

 

© 2012 Christine Agro

Join me at The Conscious Mom’s Guide, a free membership site designed to bring consciousness to every stage and phase of your life and your child’s life.

Christine Agro is a clairvoyant, naturopath, Master Herbalist, conscious mom and author of 50 Ways to Live Life Consciously as well as of The Conscious Living Wisdom Cards (Special Moms’ Edition). Christine is founder of The Conscious Mom’s Guide , a membership site where she helps support you on your own journey of living life consciously and on your journey of being a Conscious parent. You can also join Christine on Facebook. To contact Christine, invite her to speak or to schedule an appointment with her please email her.

 

 



Advertisement
Comments Post the First Comment »
post a comment

Post a Comment



Previous Posts

What can Jealousy and Envy Teach Our Children?
When we choose Conscious Parenting there is no shortage of teachable moments. Almost every situation offers us a moment to share insight, to point out something unique about ourselves or the world and to help our child become critical thinkers about not only their lives, but the world we live in.

posted 8:01:24am Feb. 19, 2013 | read full post »

TUESDAYS NATURALLY: Sick and Tired of Getting Sick? Consider Bee Propolis
When it comes to preventative health and wellness, Bee Propolis is one of the most effective and supportive natural remedies available to us today. Propolis is considered an herb because it changes little from its material state. Propolis is comprised of resins which bees collect from tree buds a

posted 9:38:43am Feb. 12, 2013 | read full post »

Where Have I Been?
It’s such a simple question, but such an involved question. December was a particularly challenging month for Caidin and it made me stop and reflect on this blog. I love sharing information, insight and guidance and my ‘way’ has always been to share real life stories. I think they help y

posted 11:03:37am Feb. 11, 2013 | read full post »

The NRA Wants Armed Gunmen In The Schools
I'm sorry, but when, how, why and in what world, does the NRA have any say into what happens in our schools. Their push to put armed gunmen in schools is unfathomable to me. Schools take considerable precautions today, ones we wish they didn't have to. But really, if a school system feels the

posted 1:57:31pm Jan. 17, 2013 | read full post »

TUESDAYS NATURALLY: Reset Your Mind
Last year I had the opportunity to read iDisorder by Dr. Larry Rosen. (Interview with Dr. Larry Rosen) It is a book that explores the role technology has on mental disorders. But what I found most important in his book is the notion that our brain doesn't 'shut down' when we turn off the computer,

posted 9:18:07am Jan. 15, 2013 | read full post »




Report as Inappropriate

You are reporting this content because it violates the Terms of Service.

All reported content is logged for investigation.