There are certain things I always say to Caidin and I see how they affect him. His eyes light up, he has a sense of pride and he in turn says many of these things back to me. One is obvious, the others you may not have thought so much about.
See what happens if you add these simple words or phrases into your day-to-day with your child.
I love you – This is the obvious one but I have known people who don’t say ‘I love you’, they assume you know. If you hold that belief it’s very possible that your child may not know. And in truth, hearing those words is much different than ‘just knowing’ they are meant. Hearing ‘I love you’ is powerful, it is healing and it can change a person’s world.
I like you – This isn’t an obvious one, but it goes a long way when you tell your child that you not only love her, but you like her too. When you tell your child that you ‘like her’ you are saying that you really enjoy who she is. We can love someone without liking them. Your child may ask you what that means and this gives you a great opportunity to talk about the difference between ‘like’ and ‘love’. Share with her what you like about her and why.
I’m glad you are here – No matter what your religious or Spiritual inclinations, in the bigger picture there is a reason that you are your child’s parent and they are your child. Acknowledging this by stating that you are glad your child is in your life takes your relationship to a whole other level of consciousness.
Yes – As parents we can become ‘no’ machines. We get asked so many questions, many of which are tests to see just how far our kids can go. Try to find inconsequential things that you can say yes too, and also see if you can buffer your ‘no’s with yeses. Here’s an example: Can I have a candy bar? You can have as much fruit as you want, but no candy tonight.
I appreciate it –A sure fire way to get your child to help out and participate in family chores and responsibilities is to let him know that you appreciate his contributions. Even if you feel that your child should do certain things around the house, it doesn’t mean you can’t show appreciation when he does and tell him so. You’ll find that your child is more likely to be conscious of what you do for him and for the family and he will verbally return that appreciation.
How we speak and respond to our children will shape how they treat the people in their lives, be it co-workers, spouses and ultimately their own children. Love, like, enjoyment, positivity and appreciation all say volumes to your child.
Test out these concepts and let me know what you experience!
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© 2012 Christine Agro
Christine Agro is a clairvoyant, naturopath, Master Herbalist, conscious mom and author of 50 Ways to Live Life Consciously as well as of The Conscious Living Wisdom Cards (Special Moms’ Edition). Christine is founder of The Conscious Mom’s Guide , a membership site where she helps support you on your own journey of living life consciously and on your journey of being a Conscious parent. You can also join Christine on Facebook. To contact Christine, invite her to speak or to schedule an appointment with her please email her