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It’s a little-known secret that our experience of life in any given moment is a direct reflection of what we actually value in that same moment. We may deny this unsettling truth, but when it comes to what we are […]

It is impossible to lash out at another person without having first hurt yourself. We will never be in command of ourselves until we feel the blow that we would give. Once we begin to feel the blow we would […]

The only thing that troubles you about other people is what you secretly want from them. How many of you lose command when you’re with other people? Have you ever walked down the street, and somebody that you’ve never even […]

Beating ourselves up after making a blunder doesn’t mean that we actually know better than what we just did — nor does this kind of suffering lead to greater command or better decisions the next time around. Self-punishing acts prove […]

Key Lesson: The smaller the self, the bigger the sense of offense it takes whenever anyone steps up to challenge one of its precious self-images. Realize Real Self-Command There is a very surprising reason why we tend to suffer over […]

Rushing thoughts and anxious feelings are invisible to you because each time they begin to race, you start to run with them. And after so many years of being carried along in this psychic slipstream, you’ve come to believe that […]

Sufi teachings speak of the “commanding self,” Christianity of deceitful interior “friends,” and virtually all other religions hold forth the idea that we have many “I’s” or divergent personalities within us, and also that some of these selves are for […]

The following six Key Lessons contain special understanding about the nature of invisible pressure-filled states that cause run human beings to run themselves ragged. The clearer we can see the reasons for why our lives are always in such a […]

Whenever we’re anxious or rushing around, we are not in command of ourselves; seen clearly, it’s evident that something within us has taken charge of our life and is telling us that if we can just get here or do […]