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Hoping to help someone — who loves to be negative — see the harm of being identified with dark states, is like trying to teach a bat to appreciate sunlight, or a mud hen to preen in fresh clean waters.

Question: Regarding harmonious extended family relationships: How do you go about mending a problem (or do you?) between a sister and a wife that was caused by the mother, who naturally is now getting along with both? Answer: Much in […]

  The greatest, most “expensive” gift that anyone can give to another is priceless, and yet… it is available in abundance for everyone to give all the time. Not only that, but this same gift rewards its giver in the […]

Question: Can you briefly state an effective way to use feelings of discouragement for spiritual growth? Answer: You may have this backwards. We don’t use clouds to realize the sun. When the clouds are gone, the sun is there. Discouragement […]

A whole new kind of spiritual happiness dawns in us as we realize that dark clouds do not ruin sunny skies… they merely pass through them to help us remember our love of the light.

Regardless of how unpleasant any circumstance seems at the moment, always remember: it’s impossible to answer any situation with negativity without casting yourself into that same self-created darkness. There is always a higher, happier answer if you’ll only learn how […]

If you would like to begin in earnest the good work of letting go of dark, self-punishing states, start here:  Never give to another person a slice of any mental or emotional state of yours that you have not taken […]

In our spiritual sleep… we live with imagined rights that, when denied, produce imagined trespassers. The internal consideration of these now in debt to us grants us imagined powers of pride along with its prejudice. These false forces permit and […]

Your original Self doesn’t come loaded with worry, regret, fear, resentment, or, for that matter, any other self-limiting states that can grow where darkness gathers. Self-limiting thoughts or feelings have power over us only when we are tricked into believing […]

When we’re around other people, and start to have a negative reaction toward them, we can begin to know better than to blame another for the negative states revealed in us. For instance, if an angry person comes to us, […]