Question: When I look at myself, it seems that my most prevalent emotion is anger. It’s always there. I frequently find myself caught up in what you call “mental movies,” remembering all the cruelty and unfairness that seem to justify […]
We rarely see how, or when we act against ourselves – or others – because of how instantly, easily we agree to identify with a legion of sleep-inducing thoughts and feelings that appear to serve one purpose: to justify a […]
The power to change our past only becomes a possibility for us as we awaken to find ourselves no longer able to make any excuses for what we have been, or for being what we are in the present moment… […]
The only thing the excuses we make for ourselves actually do is to increase our dependency on them.
The longer we go on making excuses for the way we are, the shorter grows the amount of time between the events that compel us to devise them.
Whatever justifies the unconscious suffering inherent in anger, blame, or bitterness is, itself, a part of — in league with — these same negative states. And that’s what we have to see if we ever want to be free of […]
There is a very surprising reason why we tend to suffer over our mistakes as we do. The real source of our pain in these moments –whether we’re alone or with others — is the fear of being seen as […]