The only way we begin to act as a true force of healing in the lives of others is when, at last, we cease to hurt ourselves.
The person who enables another human being believes the only choice they have is to somehow keep that person in line, save that person from themselves — not for the good of the other human being but because the enabler, […]
In its essence, every relationship in life between you and another man or woman is a reflection of the one relationship that produces it. There is one relationship that is the father, the mother of all relationships — just as […]
Once we see it’s impossible to please ourselves at the expense of the pain of someone else, we are released from the cycle of seeking a false comfort whose conflict compromises “winners” and “losers” alike. Only then are we free […]
If we really lived in this world as it is, there would be no war. If I really lived with the person that I was married to, if I really lived with the children that I have… it would be […]
It is impossible to lash out at another person without having first hurt yourself. We will never be in command of ourselves until we feel the blow that we would give. Once we begin to feel the blow we would […]
If you would like to begin in earnest the good work of letting go of dark, self-punishing states, start here: Never give to another person a slice of any mental or emotional state of yours that you have not taken […]
Whenever we can remember that we would rather smile about what life brings us than suffer over it — that our natural preference is happiness, not hurtfulness — then in such moments of being mindful of what we love most […]
Far better than being someone who is always sorry for what their being has brought to pass in the life of others is to start, instead, the difficult interior work of actually changing our being . . . so that […]
The truth of our oneness with life only starts to become real for us as we awaken to see that in hurting others, we have also hurt ourselves, and — that whenever we hurt ourselves — others suffer. *** There […]
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about how a higher awareness of “our world” makes it impossible to punish, judge or be against another person. Click here to listen to this podcast “Awaken to a New and Higher World […]
Stressful worry helps no one — not those we are concerned about, and certainly not us. Such worry heals nothing; instead, it hurts all who mistake its dark embrace as a path to empowerment. The only thing worry serves is […]
In this podcast, Guy Finley talks about how we can use everything that we encounter in our relationships with others to change ourselves.
QUESTION Why is it that when it comes to others, I don’t say what I feel until I am irritated? Then I don’t care what I say to get my point across!