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Most of us already suspect what needs to be done if we are to have any hope of moving beyond the conflict so common in our relationships. Nevertheless, here is a brief description of the spiritual action to be taken: […]

The next time you experience any kind of pain — an irritation, a flash of anger, a twinge of resentment — you can do something that will turn it into a new and different experience. Inner-life master and author Vernon […]

Real compassion lies in our ability to remember that any angry, resentful person is usually just someone who can no longer bear the weary weight of his or her own carefully concealed despair.

In that moment when we are thrown into emotional conflict, regardless of its initial cause, the first step this in-the-dark nature takes to deceive us is to direct our awareness away from the actual hurt we feel. It accomplishes this […]

By the very absence of the healing that ought naturally follow any form of injury, we should be able to deduce that certain counter forces must be at work within us. There have to be unseen anti-healing forces with a […]

In difficult moments with others let us remember this truth: it is better to find ourselves lacking the love we need to be kind — and to quietly suffer this humiliation — than it is to act from what is […]

A big part of our inner work in all of our relationships involves remembering this key idea: whenever we are not present and properly attentive to ourselves, we may be sure the false self is busy attending to something we’ll […]

Whatever justifies the unconscious suffering inherent in anger, blame, or bitterness is, itself, a part of — in league with — these same negative states. And that’s what we have to see if we ever want to be free of […]