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You know what it means to get in your own way, don’t you? It is a true phenomenon. Try to picture this: I’m walking down the street and then I run into myself… how can I run into myself unless […]

So many of our present problems could be resolved if only we could get out of our own way…

Most everything that we have to say about life and our relationships with others — and how we talk about the part of us that wants to smooth things over, keep them from being disturbed — is a form of […]

When faced with any pain or grief — past, present, or promised — the first thing our lower nature, the “me mind,” usually asks is: “What’s to be done? Who can I speak to about it? What’s the best way […]

If we see how much of our unhappiness is self-created, through being inattentive to our own interior life, then accordingly, we can learn to re-direct our attention, placing it where we will within what is right and bright. But, there […]

You can’t have your own life until you learn to challenge the “status quo” (spiritually speaking), and consciously face your fear of the pain it will bring…

Dwelling on any painful moment is like channel surfing through a thousand possible TV shows, selecting the one that troubles you the most, and then blaming your TV set for the pain you’re feeling.

The only way you will ever see that lingering painful negative states should never be justified is if you dare to stop giving yourself good reasons for their destructive presence within you!

When expectations get dashed, we don’t see new possibilities unfolding; all we see is the way things should have gone. We don’t see what is with all of its positive possibilities; instead we see only the negative . . . […]

Find out how the solution to any disturbance can be found right in the heart of the disturbance. It’s not relief from our pain that we are after, but the full realization of the denying self that has set us […]