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Question: When we have a negative experience and we want to let it go, why is it so difficult to just drop it? We wouldn’t hold on to a hot iron if we grabbed it! Answer: Because the pain, the […]

Why do we accept so much unhappiness in our lives today? If you think this supposition is untrue, ask yourself why people spend so much time seeking ways to distract themselves with empty pleasures? Or why so many people push […]

The only thing that can happen to you when you’re in the wrong place is a wrong thing. But even when you find yourself in a “wrong place” inwardly, you don’t have to remain there. The way to turn any […]

You know what it means to get in your own way, don’t you? It is a true phenomenon. Try to picture this: I’m walking down the street and then I run into myself… how can I run into myself unless […]

So many of our present problems could be resolved if only we could get out of our own way…

Most everything that we have to say about life and our relationships with others — and how we talk about the part of us that wants to smooth things over, keep them from being disturbed — is a form of […]

When faced with any pain or grief — past, present, or promised — the first thing our lower nature, the “me mind,” usually asks is: “What’s to be done? Who can I speak to about it? What’s the best way […]

If we see how much of our unhappiness is self-created, through being inattentive to our own interior life, then accordingly, we can learn to re-direct our attention, placing it where we will within what is right and bright. But, there […]

You can’t have your own life until you learn to challenge the “status quo” (spiritually speaking), and consciously face your fear of the pain it will bring…

Dwelling on any painful moment is like channel surfing through a thousand possible TV shows, selecting the one that troubles you the most, and then blaming your TV set for the pain you’re feeling.