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Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley

How to Bear Unwanted Moments

posted by Guy Finley

Question: What can I do with all the energy I feel surging through me when life does not go my way? Can you illustrate what it means to “bear the moment”?

Answer: Yes. The energy you’re describing, the onslaught of stressful thoughts and feelings, are all the product of parts of us that look at an unwanted moment and say basically, “That isn’t right.” Now normally that kind of reaction makes sense to us. But we can see better. In this instance, what we’re really doing in those unwanted moments is looking at reality and saying, “I don’t want you to be what you are,” which is like saying to a mountain, “I want you to be a lake.” It doesn’t work. But it does work up inside of us a whole host of energies whose principle basis is resistance.

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So here we are full of resistance and doing all we can to rid ourselves of that energy by blaming or trying to control what has happened. Instead, from now on, the way to use these energies is to WANT what has happened. How do you do that? By seeing that any other action on your part is already doomed not only to fall and fail, but to repeat itself each time a similar circumstance takes place.

In other words, and we’ve all heard this, but now we’re learning the truth behind it: Let go and let God. What we resist in the moment is the expression of His presence as presented in the very moment that we resist. If we see the truth of this, we will bear what we must within us because we know it is the right and true thing to do. The more we do it, the clearer we see it. The clearer we see it, the more faith we have in the fulfillment of God’s promise that all is well.

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The Source of Psychological Pain

posted by Guy Finley

The thing that is unwanted in any moment is not the event we blame for our pain. The real source of our suffering is mechanically identifying with a negative reaction, and then unconsciously resisting our own dark state. In other words: Resistance is the source of our pain, and not the event being blamed for it. Once this process — of how we are complicit in creating the moments over which we complain–is seen for what it is…it’s not that “unwanted moments” go away, but rather we stop identifying with the parts of us that see them as so.

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The Path of True Self-Seeing

posted by Guy Finley

Question: I want to grow spiritually, but somehow I have to move beyond justifying my weaknesses if I’m ever going to learn the lessons meant for me. How do I stop justifying the messes I’ve made in my life?

Answer: If we’re fortunate, there comes a certain point when we know that we can no longer afford to refuse what we know we see. And if we’ll just endure these first difficult stages of true self-seeing, new insights follow whose light rescues us by revealing that we’ve been unconscious captives in an invisible circle of false strength. And false strength is any power we have to go looking for after it’s needed!

Think about it. What good is it to find a solution — some seeming strength — that doesn’t really resolve our problem, but is just another form of secret self-deception? Outside of its power to help us temporarily feel better about the weakness that just overtook us, what good is the “strength” of being able to endlessly explain ourselves to ourselves? Or to “intelligently” justify some deliberately hurtful act towards another; to tell ourselves that this time we’ve learned our lesson and how we won’t ever do that again? But then we do do that again. We all do this until one day a certain miracle takes place and we cry out: I will no longer call upon any kind of strength that I must add to myself. What I really want is a New Self.”

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It is impossible to ask for a New Self, for a New Life, for God to be our life, until we have played ourselves out, until we realize that no matter what we do, we can’t get our life to be what we imagine and to make it stay that way.

Work with the following higher understanding until you can see the truth of it for yourself within yourself: From this moment forward start seeing that when, in a fit of unhappiness, the you that is suffering made that world. Your task is to reach a very simple, quiet state, and admit to God: “I don’t like the world I’ve made. Can You help me?” Then, your slate will be wiped clean.

When God begins wiping clean the slate of your life, it doesn’t mean He passes on to you a certain strength that now makes you a believer in yourself as someone who can create great things. That “strength” that you feel flowing into you as you enter into relationship with God is you leaving behind the level where you are identified with the weakness that made you a victim of everything you encountered, including your own thoughts. So, it’s not a growth the way we imagine seeing ourselves growing.

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Real spiritual growth is a kind of passing; of the old giving way to the New because we no longer want what we once were. In that quiet passing comes that Self which was always there before, and which you are now at last communing with.

That’s the spiritual path. It’s within you; and you must make the journey. But to make the journey you have to understand what the request is that begins it. Give up in the right way. Learning to surrender yourself begins with learning to see the need to surrender yourself. The rest takes care of itself.

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(Video) Step Out of the Prison of Familiar Suffering

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Guy Finley tells us that that until we get tired of living from the negativity we’ve accepted in our lives we will push away any new possibilities. But just starting to doubt this “certainty” is the first step out of the prison of our own making.

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