If “winning” in life was only relative to achieving one’s desire through reaching some pre-determined end, then washing machines would cheer for themselves as they approach the rinse cycle.
When we realize, at last, that there is no place in life towards which we are racing that is not already disappearing, and that there is no place where one willingly remains that isn’t beginning anew within itself, then will we have at last arrived where our heart longs to be.
You teach others (and yourself) when you do not react in alarm to some potentially frightening news or event. The people around you receive the lesson that those events, of themselves, have not the power to make or break the awakened soul. Your lesson is that you see you need not ride along on your own three-alarm nature that loves getting set off.
In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about what it means to be properly responsive to the present moment, as opposed to getting lost in worried thoughts about what action to take.
Question: How do we feel or acknowledge a negative state without giving ourselves over to it? When it is present, how can we not be affected by it?
Answer: There’s an old Chinese saying, “The birds of sadness may fly over your head, but they don’t have to build a nest there.” Our spiritual task, when affected by negative states, is to be aware of their effects and not allow them to continue their ruinous resonance within us. The pain in any negative state is never in its entrance through us, but in our resistance to it or embrace of it wherein we are then identified with the state. Then the same self that identifies becomes divided and tries to hate the very hatred it’s embraced. You must see this, and you will if you’ll do the work.