In this short talk, Guy Finley talks about our common need for a higher kind of love that releases us from feelings of fear, doubt and hopelessness.
Question: I am taking the biggest risk of my life and am about to leave a longstanding job for a new home-business opportunity. There is quite a bit of fear in leaving the safety of the known for the unknown. Any ideas on how to make this new adjustment in life and how to quell the uncertainty?
Answer: Here is a good tip in general when it comes to getting ready to step into anything unknown: Strive to do what is in your power while remaining awake to what is not. It is not in your power to control what will occur or how events will transpire. But it is in your power to be awake to the fearful voices that either project some doom or that denounce you for making mistakes. Realize that these fearful states are secretly trying to keep you captive. The only hold they have is the fear they can get you to buy into about “you.” Remember: Do what is in your power, not what is not.
Question: My mom was a very talented professional singer. My daughter has the most beautiful voice I have ever heard and singing is as natural as breathing to her! She is embarking upon a life of medical service but I’m wondering how her talent should best express itself in this life?
Answer: Whenever someone is fortunate enough to have a genuine love of something in this life, one may be sure this love that he or she was given will see to it that it “shines” as needed upon whatever is intended for that person to flower accordingly. Love never fails; it is success itself. If you feel you must do something for your daughter, then just quietly support her wishes, without enabling her. Let the love in her have its head… for it knows far better than anyone what it wants to marry.
The beauty of Love is that She is already within everything; which means that there is nothing that we are drawn to know by Love’s invitation that won’t grant us for our journey itself the gift of a greater relationship with Love.
Here are some ideas how to begin this journey of the Heart:
First, give your love to something. Do something with your love. Find something you love and then set out to make it your own. Never mind if you don’t have any one love for any one thing in this life. Forget the whole idea of love for the moment and ask yourself: “To what am I drawn? What is it that interests me?”
Never mind if you are attracted to something but feel unable to start because you are afraid of failing in your quest. Be assured of this: Whatever it may be that you are drawn to know — whether it is to learn a new skill, grow a flower garden, develop an artistic skill, to help others, design clothes or cars, or set out towards a deeper interior life whose center is Love Herself — I tell you the only thing that matters is that you just start!
You can’t know this yet, but it is Love that calls you to Her side for whatever is your eventual choosing, and it is Love within you that feels this drawing. So do you know what this means? Just consider: Love will not, cannot fail Herself. It is more likely the sun would fall from the sky than for Love not to begin to shine through your nascent efforts. Your first reward will be to feel the warmth of knowing you are nearing the beginning of a whole New Life.
Forget what others may think of you for your new aim to do your heart’s desire. Disregard those whose reality is a rut! Misery wants company. Do Love’s bidding instead. Persist with your working wish and Love will grant you the company of Herself. And as you gradually draw nearer to Her side you will know that nothing anyone thinks towards you could possibly add one cubit to your stature.
Brush aside any concerns you have (for whatever the reasons) of being unable to make a “big” beginning. Just start where you are and with what you have — even if this means taking a step so small that not one person on earth notices you have just left one world and entered another. Any beginning that you will make for the sake of answering the call of your heart is the same as a beginning whose happy ending already resides right within that same initial action.
Don’t be the least concerned if you can’t seem to find the time — or the energy — to get going because of life’s seemingly endless “duties” to family or friends. Drop these punishing (and false) ideas. Listen instead to this promise that Love makes to anyone willing to draw near enough to hear Her whisper Her secret:
Do what you must to make time and you will see that the energy you need to succeed will be given to you.
Love lends her force to the entire universe, so don’t you think that if you were to ask rightly for a bit of it — for Her sake — that She would give you the measure you need? Of course She will! All you need do is just make some time, give some moments to your intended journey. Even if all you can muster to get started with is two minutes a day, just place your attention on what you want to love, and it will love you back by giving you a bit of itself.