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Letting Go with Guy Finley

Letting Go with Guy Finley

The Power to Walk Away from Useless Suffering

posted by Guy Finley

Question: Would you give me some specific strategies to help me when I start to feel depression pulling at me and dragging me down?

Answer: Here are three bright new actions for you to take. Each is designed to help you bring the light you need into the present darkness of what you have yet to understand about your depressed states. Use them all together and you will soon command the very forces that once compelled you to believe that your dark states were inescapable.

1. The next time depression takes you over, think toward it instead of from it. What this means is that you are to realize in the moment of being taken over by the darkness that you are simply wrongly involved in thinking about your state from the state itself. This is exactly how negative states take us captive. See the depression as a temporary imposition instead of accepting the position the state is telling you that you must accept. Work at this. Your efforts will be rewarded.

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2. In that same moment when you realize that something painful has again pressed its way into you, holding you hostage to a hated image or painful regret, here is what to do: right there, right in that Now, instead of capitulating into that familiar state of feel­ing yourself to be a captive of what this pain tells you that you must remember (along with all of its suggested solutions for ending the suf­fering), choose to remember the Light. Instead of being drawn into a struggle with that unwanted sense of conflict, complete with its cast of supporting characters drawn from your past, intentionally withdraw your attention from that stage show. And at the same time as you close the curtain on it, bring all of your reclaimed attention into the Now. Come awake to the sense of your own physical body. Observe what thoughts and feelings are pressing themselves into your awareness and, while working in the Now like this, welcome into you a conscious remembrance of the Light, of God’s Life, of the whole truth as best you understand it. Choose to remember the Light. Let it fight for you. Instead of a life of endless resistance, you will learn the timeless secret of how to replace any form of darkness with the Light you have chosen over it.

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3. When you feel some kind of darkness coming over you, you must muster the courage to consciously doubt the reality of this condition, even though your feelings are pow­erfully trying to convince you that what you feel is true. Here is a special short poem entitled “Ten Words With the Power to Help You Walk Away From Useless Suffering”:

The “feel” is real,

But the “why” is a lie!

Let this liberating insight into the secret nature of unhappy feelings find a welcome home in you. Dare to apply its wisdom to any moment when some negative state tries to brew up a storm in you, and watch how you can make even the most stubborn sufferings disappear.

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How to Defuse Painful Memories

posted by Guy Finley

Question: I can make myself sick with just the simple thought of a certain painful memory crossing my mind. Is there a way to defuse the hurt instead of sinking into it?

Answer: The next time some hostile state takes you over — either in thought (as in remembering something someone did to you in the past) or in an actual moment of conflict with someone standing before you — ask yourself the following question at the moment you can remember yourself to do so: Is this self that I am presently experiencing the me that I want to be? Or: Is this suffering self how I want to know myself? And then just come as awake as you can to the realization that you are not who you want to be at that moment, but that something foreign to your True Nature has imposed itself on you and taken over your life. Then, once having done this, do nothing else except realize that while you may be temporarily powerless to stop the lower state from possessing you, you are empowered to recognize the negative state as an intruder. This awareness — this conscious awareness of your true pained condition — is what it means to put the light on the problem. That is your job. The Light will do its part if you will do yours. Persist until you are free!

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The Meaning of Suffering

posted by Guy Finley

Are all these struggles and their suffering merely disparate circumstances, void of meaning and viscious in intent, or are these vicissitudes of life invisible structures placed before us, meant to reveal both the ladder to the heavens and the soul created to ascend it? How we answer this question determines the direction and the outcome of our individual existence.

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Three New Choices That Dismiss Dark Conditions

posted by Guy Finley

The only thing most of us know to do when life takes an unwanted turn, bringing us what we don’t want, is to take a turn for the negative ourselves. And when the circumstance in question really makes a wreck of things, not only do we summarily reject the event seen “at cause,” but for good measure we often will turn our wrath upon our own lives, pronouncing them “not worth living”!

Such flashes of frustration born from our growing sense of futility make sense on the surface of things, and even seem curative to the self that feels so impossibly stuck. But a closer look proves otherwise.

What many have yet to understand is that dark, negative reactions to unwanted events do nothing to cure them. In fact, these painful impulses have just the opposite effect. They actually “cement” things — fixing both themselves and the false sense of self through which they then are empowered to run their unhappy course. Here is some help to see the truth of this.

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Each negative response that passes unconsciously through us actually confirms its own dark perception that life has “done me wrong”! But this is only half of its occult operation. This same conclusion — of having been somehow victimized by an uncaring world — virtually locks the door on the possibility of ever discovering the real lessons and the truth behind these times of trial. Whenever life runs counter to your wishes, try to see that it really isn’t life that has denied you your happiness, but that the real culprit responsible for darkening the moment is some idea you have about what you need to be happy.

Admittedly, this new and higher perception takes courage, because instead of struggling to change the “dark” condition called into question (or just silently stewing over it), you must turn and face the false self responsible for this outlook. But the truth is there is really no alternative, not if you can see that as long as this demanding self stands unchallenged within you, so will the painful pattern of fighting with unwanted events continue to occur. The next time that life comes knocking with what you “don’t want,” instead of allowing yourself to be dragged through the old round-around, make these three new choices, and watch how they dismiss the darkness knocking at your door:

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Your first choice (always!) is to come wide-awake to yourself. Remember: Your new aim is to not allow old, mechanical reactions to rule the day. Then, in this awareness of yourself, see that the unpleasantness of the offending moment is not actually in the event itself but is an effect of resisting your own perception that something has taken away your happiness. Key here to escaping this circle of self-perpetuating punishment is in coming awake to its existence, and how not wanting to feel a certain way is giving you the very feeling you don’t want!

For your second new choice, stop complaining to yourself (and others) about what life has “done” to you. All you are really doing is recreating the very dismal state-of-self you are condemning. Consciously choose to go the other way, which brings us to the third and most important choice in this exercise:

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Say “yes” to life. Instead of blindly refusing moments that seem contradictory to your contentment, and then arbitrarily pushing them away, learn how to embrace these unwanted moments. Bring them into your real life, into the light of self-awareness, instead of trying to get rid of them. Your conscious embrace invites these times to tell you about the self they help to reveal. Freedom follows.

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