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Letting Go with Guy Finley

Question: I’ve said and done some terrible things to people in my life. How do I get through this guilt? Is there a right way to make amends to people I’ve wronged?

Answer: Yes. Change yourself. In the long run, there is no other way that we can be forgiven for who and what we’ve been, nor is there any other way to truly forgive others. Start by daring to stay awake to these recurring bouts with guilt and, instead of identifying with the negative sensation that is merely a rerun of your old nature, drop it like a hot rock. You’ll have to work at this, but real results will follow.

Whatever justifies the unconscious suffering inherent in anger, blame, or bitterness is, itself, a part of — in league with — these same negative states. And that’s what we have to see if we ever want to be free of whatever it is (within us) that has “good reasons” for tearing itself apart.

You must linger for a while in a place, or with a person before they will divulge their secrets to you. The same holds true when it comes to realizing the truth of your innermost self; there is nothing as certain as solitude to introduce you to the secret of yourself.

In this short talk, Guy Finley explores the true meaning and purpose of meditation, and explains why it is the most natural and practical thing you can do for yourself.

Click here to listen to “The Gift of Meditation”