In this podcast, Guy Finley explains how every human being is meant to be a unique expression of the Intelligence of our Living Universe.
Click here to listen to this podcast “Dare to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others”
Talk notes: There is no blade of grass … no flower petal … no moment that is the same. Everything in Reality, both visible and invisible, is unique. This holds true for human beings as well. No other person is capable of expressing what can only be expressed by you — by who you really are.
The world cannot realize its full potential as long as human beings refuse to explore the interior world. Today, hardly anything is truly unique because we have all become imitators of the world we see outside of us, constantly comparing ourselves to other people.
We are intended to be used as instruments by the Intelligence that guides the Present Moment. However, presently we think that WE are the intelligence that is responsible for guiding the present moment, which means we are always struggling to make the moment fit into what we imagine the moment should be.
When we really speak and act from the Present Moment, there is no wrong concern over what to say or do, and there is no worry over how we will be seen by others. In striving to wake up from the dream, no longer will you feel the punishment of trying to be what you are not.
Unseen by those who feel empty, rejected by those full of regret, and feared by those who resist change… is this inescapable spiritual fact concerning emptiness, sorrow, or fear: our lives are full of what we fill them with!
Question: The past keeps coming into my thoughts when situations arise that bring rehearsed doom and gloom feelings that hamper the chance for success in the present. What do I do in that moment? Meditate? Pray? Try to think of another more pleasant time? I have trouble and fear with all of this. What is the mind to do at this point to overcome the present problem?
Answer: The great axiom in all such cases — that answers all questions arising up from out of them — is that resistance to the disturbance is the disturbance. This means that resistance — wishing the fear (or whatever) would go away — doesn’t actually create the distance we imagine it will between us and the suffering we want gone; resistance makes real what would be otherwise transformed by our quiet awareness of it, so instead of breaking free, we further encapsulate ourselves in that pain. The task is to see (which you will, if you persist with your wish to be free) that we are what we don’t want at that moment through an unconscious act of becoming identified with the negative state. We can’t escape these troublesome parts of ourselves; we can only outgrow them, like a child that loses interest in a favorite pair of shoes that are no longer comfortable to wear.
Here are five reasons why the interior work of remembering yourself should always come first:
1. An unattended mind is the breeding ground of self-defeat.
2. The temptation to be self-degrading can only be dropped by seeing the secret self-love in it. (Then, instead of looking down on yourself, you can begin to learn what it means — and what it costs — to look up and away from this false sense of self.)
3. Conscious efforts are always rewarded with increased consciousness.
4. Despite temporary manifestations, manipulated for the sake of appearances, you can’t treat any other human being any differently from the way you treat yourself.
5. Wasted energies are the same as lost opportunities.