Counter to popular opinion, real success is not measured by the amount of our possessions. Simply stated, the truth is that real success — ultimately the only success — is determined by how much we are in actual possession of ourselves. And by the light of this great fact of life, we can also see that the person who fears the loss of what he thinks is his success has not truly succeeded. Why is this the truth? The individual who lives with secret self-defining fears is not a self-possessing person but rather a person possessed, often pushed and punished by his fears.
There is a very surprising reason why we tend to suffer over our mistakes as we do. The real source of our pain in these moments –whether we’re alone or with others — is the fear of being seen as less than we’ve imagined ourselves to be. We all know how it feels to try and save face, to scramble for scraps of lost dignity. But fearfully trying to cover up a misstep is not the same as knowing where we’re going. In fact, whenever we feel compelled to cover our tracks, something is in command of us, isn’t it? But here’s the real question: What part of us wants us to believe that a good “cover-up” is the same as being right? The answer is surprising: It’s our “un- original” self . . . a level of being that only knows itself through a slew of acquired social images, including the false belief that they must be protected at all costs.
In your new book, The Courage to Be Free, you talk about seeing the good when things look bad. Many people are seeing a lot of bad right now — the economy has hurt many people and nature itself seems to be in upheaval. How can we see the good in events that seem to be so destructive?
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