There are two basic kinds of prayer. The first kind of prayer — the one most commonly understood and practiced — is when you are asking for what you want; when you are temporarily filled with — and renewed by — both the self making that request and the anticipation of what is requested. This is the only kind of prayer that most men and women ever know — when you ask from yourself for something for yourself. Examples of this kind of prayer are as easy to produce as listening to your own thoughts tell you why you’re unhappy with your life. “Please send me some money.” “Please straighten out my problem.” “Please arrange a happy ending for me.” In this kind of prayer, the person praying knows what he or she wants, as well as how that prayer ought to be happily answered.
But there is another kind of prayer. A special form of invocation exists that is virtually unknown in these days of ever-increasing ignorance of ourselves. This secret prayer is when you ask God to be in charge of your life without telling how. This powerful kind of prayer begins with learning to ask the Almighty to help you help yourself see the truth about your life, even while knowing it will most likely reveal something about you that you don’t want to see. For instance, you might say silently in your heart: “Please, Almighty . . . show me what I need to see about myself.” Or perhaps, “Blessed Mother . . . I’m so weary with all that I know to ask for. Please teach me, whatever the cost, to learn how to ask for something new.”
Briefly summarizing the difference between these two distinct types of prayer, the first one is where you are in charge of what you think you must have to be happy. Here you are trying to light your own way, struggling daily to straighten out the darkened and crooked places in your life that lay both ahead of and behind you.
The second kind of prayer is the one critical for real self-renewal. With this prayer you ask God to be in charge of your life, to give you not what you think you want, but what He knows you need in order to enlarge your relationship with Him. In this prayer you’re not looking for anything for yourself outside of asking God to remove the veils from your eyes.
The whole of your new wish, this change in how you want to consciously change the way you’ve been approaching your life, is your agreement to discontinue yourself. This new willingness on your part for God’s will to supplant your own invites His life to pour into yours. In comes the water that renews your life. You find yourself more alive than when you were struggling to give yourself the life you hoped for. You find yourself newly alive.
Truth teachings throughout the ages tell us that healing the hidden and hurting places in our heart begins with becoming conscious of them. We are taught that we cannot free ourselves of anything that we refuse to meet face-to-face. The great American philosopher and self-realized author, Ralph Waldo Emerson, confirms this spiritual fact: “In regard to disagreeable and formidable things, prudence does not consist in evasion or flight but in courage. He who wishes to walk in the most peaceful parts of life with any serenity must screw himself up to resolution. Let him front the object of his worst apprehension, and his stoutness will commonly make his fear groundless.”
What encouragement! But these words are more than merely motivational. The promise hidden in this powerful principle doesn’t just leave us wanting the courage we need, far from it. Such truths invite us to see our lives through their eyes, where we are shown the existence of a fearless heart, free from all self-compromise. We catch sight of a warrior’s way, where the favorable outcome of our struggle becomes certain the moment we choose to explore what is yet to be discovered within ourselves. But that’s not all. These same truths hint of the greatest gift of all — not only the possibility of a liberated life, but the promise of it fulfilled. And all that is asked of those who would enter this bright new world is to embrace its reality within themselves.
Guy explains that one of the primary reasons why we don’t change is because there’s no space in our life. He shows how real change requires we agree to the stirrings and disturbances that are part of the full life. These stirrings and disturbances actually serve a purpose we cannot know in advance.
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Question: It seems like the more I struggle with a disturbance, the more it stays with me. The more I think about it, the more intense it gets. What is the way out of this trap?
Answer: No disturbance of any kind has the power to swamp and sink our heart or mind once we realize that we are the one lending these storms the force they need to drag us down. In practical terms this means that whatever disturbances we unknowingly create within us may be instantly un-created in the very same moment we withdraw our consent to remain conflicted.
The storms we suffer are not born simply from any particular event that takes place, but rather they rise from an unknown ground in us due to our undetected resistance to them. Further, these unwanted events that we so strongly resist are not the actual events themselves. What we secretly struggle against in these moments are unwanted images of that event fashioned by ourselves. This occurs, for example, when we imagine a fearful future, or see ourselves thrown for a social loss of some sort. In these moments we suffer, as we do, because we are looking at what we don’t want to see. And then, because we don’t know that we have been tricked into giving these negative fantasies our attention, we try to imagine ways to escape their punishing presence. The more we struggle to get away, the more attention we inadvertently lend to what we wish would disappear! It’s a great paradox: not wanting to look upon what is bothering us keeps what is bothering us in plain view! But now we are beginning to see our way out of this trap.
From this moment forward, whenever some dark storm appears in us, we must neither run from it nor stand there and hate what we think is happening. Instead we must awaken to ourselves, bring ourselves back into the Now and quietly, deliberately, drop any image that our thought-nature presents within us to justify the brewing conflict. Learning to dismiss the storms that sink our chances to be happy takes dedicated inner work, but you may be assured such powers are possible. Your True Nature already dwells beyond the reach self-wrecking storms. Join it; begin Now!